struggling with partners job.
so my partners whole job is working away, he travels all around the country and stays in different hotels throughout the week. we share a car, so i drop him off at his unit on a monday early morning and pick him up late on friday evenings, meaning the weekend is the only time we have together and as a family with our 22 month old daughter.
he loves the actual job itself, the company is doing really well, and he could easily progress in his career but the only downside is obviously the fact it’s purely away… and i’m really struggling with it.
i’ve spoken to him many of times about how i feel regarding this but he says he can’t just leave and he doesn’t want to just get another job which he won’t enjoy and won’t be a long term career but a deadend job. this i totally understand, however i feel like it’s a lot on myself mentally and physically having to keep on top of everything on my own every week.
i’m not really sure where im going with this but i would appreciate hearing other people thoughts and maybe a bit of reassurance? i just need to rant.
i’m finding managing my daughters tantrums very difficult at the moment also, and i could just really use the extra support in the evenings if he had a ‘regular’ job where that would be possible. i don’t want him to miss out on her growing up and i don’t want her only being able to see her daddy for two days. it doesn’t affect our relationship thankfully but i just feel it’s affecting my mental health a lot more than i originally thought.
if there’s anyone else in the same boat, i’d love to know how you feel and how you work around this. tia x
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@Hollie i love our quality time but i also don’t get a break, even during the weekend…it’s hard work. my daughters currently not in nursery and i work twice a week, in which either mine or my partners mum looks after her during. they both work the rest of the week so not possible for stayovers x
Ah I see. I understand what you mean. It is hard work these kids. Could you maybe look into getting some free hours one or two of the days maybe to give yourself a break in the week perhaps to have some you time x none of my business I’m just trying to give some options to your post to help out x
Or maybe try get daughter in a go to bed early routine in the week so you can catch a bit of a break maybe x
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Yeah that sounds tough. But you get to spend that quality time with your daughter? Your not having to work? Is he paying all the bills house etc try look at the positives maybe x maybe try going out fun days out quality time with your daughter. It’s your fella that’s missing out not you x hopefully you get a break too if your daughter might be in nursery some of the time or help from family to take care of you also x