Am I just over protective or is my mil doing to much?

My mil is always saying how she can't wait to meet the baby and recently told me that she cannot wait to love on my son when he is born and kiss him ( she did say not on the face) she sometimes makes it sound like this is her baby or that she's overly excited about him and she even has said my baby once or twice which bothers me. I just need help, idk if I'm overthinking this or if she's doing way too much and if so how do I talk to her about how I feel without her getting upset with me?

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I felt the same way before I gave birth, but now having a 2 month old I realized it truly takes a village & I am so lucky to have a MIL that loves my baby like her own. We are out of state and our families are 8 hrs away so we cherish every minute with them. You have a right to feel how you feel, but I’m so glad it sounds like you have an amazing support system 🩷

I would just be completely honest with her… my mil is kinda the same way but very emotional. It’s her first grand so I get the excitement for sure! She might be upset for a little while about it but she will get over it because she’s clearly over the moon to meet the little man, so it shouldn’t last long and just tell her it’s not to upset her an your emotions are everywhere an you don’t say it to be mean just need to get it off your chest because the stress of not talking about it is causing more stress

My mil says “my baby” too and it does drive me crazy. And when she comes over she will do things with my daughter without asking first (like putting lotion on her or giving her a sponge bath). It does annoy me but she is super helpful and she makes things a lot easier for me. So I can deal with the little annoyances

I definitely would lose it at the "my baby" comments but i was explaining to my husband the other day that everyone's super excited because we're having the first grandchild and first niece so our parents and siblings are very excited and sometimes express that in ways that I see as overboard. An example is his sister said something about her getting matching outfits with our daughter and although it kinda rubbed me wrong in the moment I realized she's excited and in the grand scheme of things it isn't that big a deal so I am picking my battles on what is really crossing boundaries and what is just excitement

I try to remember I am their mama and will always be #1 for them. I am the one there in the morning when they wake up, there saying goodnight, there at 2 am when the cry out. I can be generous and share them with someone else from time to time. Babies bring so much joy to the world! Let them spread their joy!

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