Vbac?

I’m getting a c section nd this is my first child. Y was it traumatic my love

@Amelia honestly I couldn't do literally anything after my nerve block that I got lasted 24 hours I couldn't get up to go get the baby when she was crying I couldn't shower by myself and I fell into depression after cause I couldn't take care of her by myself even just holding her hurt I cried for 4 days in the hospital cause of the pain I also got really sick after and couldn't walk right for a month

Were by urself with no help?

@Amelia I had "help" baby's father would just yell at me

That’s not help love if he was yelling at you… man I swear I want to stabb them sometimes

@Amelia ik fr

It seems like during a c-section you need a special bed that lifts you up and down if you have toddlers it could be very risky it’s just very painful

And my sons dad made it worse I was literally just bymyself taking care of my son

Yall need to smack the fire out of them because that’s just wrong … how you watching ur woman get like that

I'm terrified of having another c-section. I felt like I was going to die on the or tabe

I would give a Vbac a try! Ask your OB but the c-section can always be the last resource

I think finding a way to process and grieve the trauma of the first birth will help immensely. The body stores trauma physically and since birth is a very visceral, physical process the fear could impair the natural course of things. In the same way an animal will stall birth and move if they feel unsafe. Can you afford a doula and tell hubby to go wait in the waiting room old school style? There are doulas that also work with families in need. Having a support person can make a huge difference and there’s research to back that up. Having a provider that’s supportive of VBAC is also really helpful.