I’ve left but feel awful

I have driven with a car load of essentials and my 3 month old to stay with my mum as I couldn’t take the home environment any longer. I was living with my BD and MIL - BD was super supportive during labour and the first couple weeks postpartum especially when I was having boundary issues with MIL. Eventually he had a conversation with her that turned heated and ever since that day she has pretended like I don’t exist (even in the same house). She went abroad for a little while and me and BD finally had some space but even though he is self employed and doesn’t have to work, I was doing every thing in the house. I also pay towards utilities and all my own expenses. I was drowning in the housework along with a new baby and he started to distance himself from me physically and emotionally. I asked him if we could talk and he would tell me to leave him alone and built up resentment against me would spill out. I finally convinced him to let me stay with my family for a week and I went back to him yesterday. My MIL is back and even though I was given the impression that we could start on a new leaf, she stayed in her room when we came home and didn’t come out to say hi all night. I told him I couldn’t tolerate this for the next few months till she leaves again, and he completely exploded on me. He called me disrespectful but also absolutely tore me apart and called me out my name in the craziest ways. He’s demanded a DNA test and told me to leave. When I did leave, he has been sending me abusive messages screaming down the phone to bring back his son. I am so scared what the future is going to look like. Has anyone left their BD this early and it all worked out?

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Divorce he sided with his mother without telling you. As she feed him lies he kept it bottled up. You don’t deserve the treatment that he did and the lack of responsibility that he gave himself he should be doing more and he should be respecting you and hold strong boundaries between him and his mother, but he hasn’t and he chose his side and chose violence and aggression. It is your time to leave him. It is your sign to go, and it’s his karma to learn. Divorce that man does not care about you. He let his inner Demon show, they show their true colors believe them you have nothing to feel guilty about you. Left an unsafe and difficult situation. He should’ve been man enough to stand up for you, but since he wasn’t, he can pay child support.

Write a pros and cons list it’s obvious what that’s going to tell you girl you’re better with your mum trying to figure it all out cus that seems hectic and awful itself

Girl I’m literally at my moms now with a three month old 😔 I left this past weekend because home was becoming toxic. My BD took care of all the house bills and I took care of raising his two daughters and housework. But he couldn’t communicate for shit. I was struggling with all the life changes as we just got the girls full time and now a newborn. And he didn’t understand what I was going through or seem to care. He didn’t help much with the baby. And he said some really fucked up things about my son I’ll never forget. I literally have to go out of state because I have no family here that I can stay with and have my own space. But for me my baby’s development is so important to me that it’s so worth it. My BD always gaslights me and stonewalls me and it’s extremely triggering. So I decided to leave him and do what I gotta do to support my baby and I. I don’t want him as an example to my son. I want my son to value woman and treat them with care and communicate. You can do this.

Erm leave, no one should treat you this way, just the screaming down the phone is enough for me to say bye 👋

Do not feel Awful, because you are taking you and your child away from a toxic home,no one should stay where their is desrepect

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