Is it weird to add "no mention of god" to my birth plan?

Can't say I had this issue once so it's not something I had to add but if you feel it's necessary then add it.

I would just address it with the person that is saying it.

That's a totally appropriate request! I support that being a part of your birth plan 100%. But, do you feel like this midwife is a good fit for your overall? How far along are you in your pregnancy? You might be seeing her for quite a while between now and birth, and I'd love it if you could have a midwife who makes you feel comfortable. You also want to make sure she will respect your beliefs and honor your wishes during labor. Do you think you can talk to her about it? You might consider telling her you're not religious and would prefer her not to bring up God in your appointments. If she listens and honors your request, problem solved. If she doesn't, it may be a a good idea to find another care provider who's a better fit, if that's an option for you.

I say this as a Christian myself, she needs to respect you and your beliefs/wishes. However she won’t know those boundaries without you addressing them to her (though she shouldn’t just assume it’s okay). I would kindly inform her that you would like no mention of God for your own personal reasons and if she can’t respect that then I’d find someone else who can.

I think adding it to your birth plan is a little passive aggressive,I would just address it with her directly

Is it a religious hospital or a religious birthing center? If so that may just come with the territory. If not then it’s very odd. If that is going to be your midwife on delivery day I would speak with her, speak with the hospital or center and put it in your birth plan. If it’s not I would go ahead and put it in your birth plan. If the hospital is not religious I would call them and let them know what the employee was saying to you.

No, it's your birth plan you do as you please.

Yeah that’s just a bit disrespectful tbh, not even so much the religious aspect but pushing crap like “you are made to do this”… tell that to the millions of women who couldn’t and who died. I think that mindset is pretty damaging and not professional of a medical provider. Everyone is entitled to their religious beliefs but pushing them onto others and also pushing narratives that can be dangerous is not it.

I am seeing multiple midwives and doctors as there can not be a guarantee of who will be at the hospital. This is the first midwife that ever brought up God in the conversation. I am 35 weeks now. The hospital or the clinic is not religious. However, I am in South usa. All of the advice to bring this up to the midwife directly is highly appreciated. I will definitely do that. Feel like this is the first "stand up for yourself" test, and I have failed it, but thank you to all your advice. I now know better!

No way, you haven't failed in any way! Sometimes we need time to reflect on things or talk them over with others before we fully know how we feel or how we want to respond. Asking for guidance can be so helpful, and I'm glad you did. You're feeling more empowered to address it now, which is awesome. It's good to hear you haven't had this issue with any of the other midwives. You got this!

I’m Christian and I support birth plans all the way. I would say when it comes to it I think you can ask for a room to be silent but you can’t tell someone what to say. That’s her faith and way of making sense of things. Why not just choose a midwife who has similar views as you? It’s never too late. And if you do ask , she might not honor that request because scripture tells us Christians to talk about God. That’s literally how we got the Bible. You can’t ask someone not to talk about something that is part of their identity. When she shows up to work she doesn’t just turn that part of her off. Lastly, let’s be realistic about this, as many patients as she sees in a day, I doubt she would even be able to remember to honor that request. You would be setting yourself up for disappointment. So just switch to a more like minded midwife/office ORRRR become more open to hearing about God and making Jesus your Lord and Savior 😉 People in the comments please don’t come for me. 🙏🏽

Also, definitely advocate for yourself and don’t stay quiet if you feel really bothered by it or like it’s being imposed on you. You should never feel forced, especially during birth. Here’s a friendly tip, if it’s that important to you make a door sign that says (non religious speech please) that way you don’t even have to say it! Whoever comes into your room will get the hint by seeing the door sign, without the akward moment of you having to say it! PLUS you have to remember all hospitals have chaplains, so add to your birth plan that you don’t want a visit from them. Again if it’s THAT IMPORTANT to you, you can take those measures to make it less awkward and more empowering.