My baby dad 🙄

Just on here to have a rant and see your opinions. So my baby dad and I were together when I got pregnant but since then we started arguing a lot and I noticed how poorly he treated me. He would often scream in my face when we were arguing and then tell me it was my fault. He would get annoyed when I didn’t want to sleep with him anymore, we then split up after about a month and a half into the pregnancy and since then he because really horrible. Since we split he would turn up to at my home and leave things outside my home, he would message me with abuse and tell me he wished he never got me pregnant and how he was “wounded” that I’m the mother of our baby, he made threats of kidnapping our child and said he would take me to court to get the baby taken off me and he would “make sure they have the best possible life” even if that meant I wouldn’t be around Since then I’ve acctually taken him to court and he is no longer allowed to contact me however he has contacted me and he wants to be put on the birth certificate but I don’t want to put him on there, and it’s not to be a bitch but I’m genuinely concerned because of the threats he’s made. Should I put him in the birth certificate?

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Hey, firstly sorry to hear you have had such a hard time and congratulations on your little one. Sounds like you are at a crossroads, have you sought legal advice or anything like that ?

Fuck no do not put him on. Don't tell him when the baby is born either. He's abusive. If you put him on the birth certificate he will have rights to your child and he will abuse that child as well

@Deanne i have an IDVA and we went to court and he’s not allowed to contact me, he’s to stop turning up at my home, and he’s not allowed to post about me anymore social care we’re involved briefly and they said that they would recommend I didn’t put him on the birth certificate but I’m worried about how he’s going to react when he finds out baby has been registered and he’s not on the birth certificate if I don’t put him on there

If he’s not allowed to contact you, how is he going to find out?

@Rosa our court order states that the only contact allowed is about the baby and nothing else

That’s hard. Does the court state anything about him being on the birth certificate. Do you maybe need to get legal advice on this specific issue?

Oh hell no! and if there is a court order not to contact you, he broke it. You don’t have to tell him when you go into labor so go have your baby in peace. Legally contact him after all the paperwork is filled out.

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