Gaslighting

Do what is right for YOU AND YOUR BABY

She can downplay all she wants it will 99% of the time still be more recovery time than a vaginal birth. Unless there is a reason why would she want major surgery for you. No other surgery would you be expected to care for a newborn and there’s a reason why. Some people recover well but some take multiple weeks. I had a vaginal delivery and was out walking with the pram two days later as there was pretty much no down time.

You have to do what you feel most comfortable with. It's your birth experience and no one but your doctors should give advice on. It's such a personal decision and experience, only you get to decide! People will tell you horror stories both with vaginal and c-section birth. I chose an elective c-section early in my pregnancy and everyone try to talk me out of it, in the end my baby was breech and I needed one. I had an amazing birth, easy recovery and experienced no pain. But everyone is different, your birth your choice!

Do what’s right for you. An elective c section was right for me - a vaginal birth scared the life out of me. My section was wonderful. Stress free, complication free, really relaxed and recovery was so much better than everyone told me it would be. I was walking the same day, and when I have more babies i’ll be electing for a section again. I loved it so much. If a vaginal birth is what you want, listen to no one else but yourself. The amount of people who tried to put me off a section, and when it came to it my baby had his cord round his neck twice and he was breech. My birth would’ve ended up as an emergency section anyway.

Stop talking to her about the delivery its up to you. Negativity is not what you need right now. Don't have her there when you deliver as she won't be advocating for what you want. My mum did this too, and I wish I had just cut contact with her. I had an unplanned c section, and chances for that were increased because I was idiotic enough to have her there and she was advocating for interventions I didn't want and it's ruined my relationship with her because she thinks she was doing the right thing but she was not respecting my body autonomy and i cannot forgive her. She only had me which was a forceps delivery so she thought nothing can be worse than that but I had ptsd from the emergency c section and hell she was wrong because it wasn't what I wanted. Recovery can be very rough although sometimes you cannot avoid a c section you can reduce your chance of a emergency c section by surrounding yourself with positive people who support you and your choices and make you feel safe not worried xxx