How much childcare should my partner be doing?
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I think this really depends on your situation, for example how busy or stressful their job is and the time they have to help. For example my partner also works from home, 9-5 Monday to Friday. He gets up and changes baby/makes the bottle in the morning and I feed him, then he’ll change him and give him the 10pm feed and sometimes the 6:30pm feed. He also helps with bath time. During the day, he does pop down and help out when needed but generally baby’s with me x
I really don't think there is a set standard as its each to their own, my husband is absolutely amazing and goes above and beyond but that doesn't mean every man will be the same... he works 6 days a week with only Sunday off, he will work 6am till 6pm somedays but as soon as he comes home he parents, he says being with our daughter is his peace and he loves it. He does bedtime every single night and on his one day off on a Sunday he gets up with her so I can have a sleep in (the man hasn't had a sleep in since before she was born). Now I know that sounds absolutely mental and there really isn't a lot of men that would be like that but that's just his personality. I try to get dinner before she goes bed, I will do a lot of the housework, I literally pick up everything else that I can because he does so much. I think it's up to each couple to figure it out. If you feel like he's not doing enough what would you change? Is it that you are feeling overwhelmed and mummed out? Xx
My OH works 6:30-6 ish mon - friday. He’s out doing his hobby most of the day on Sunday. When he gets home from work one of us will play with the baby (usually him) and one will cook dinner. He will give him his nightly bottle and put him to bed. I do the nights, the baby only wakes up around 5 ish but very noisy sleeper. I sleep with him in our spare room. On Friday nights my OH swops with me so i can get one night of decent sleep. He tries to play as much as he can but he also does the majority of the housework (apart from clothes washing) so i can spend as much time with the baby in the week.
Neither of us work so it’s generally 50:50 for us. But there are days when my health isn’t so good so he picks up the slack so I can go sleep/rest. Also days where I go out with the kids and he doesn’t come which is fine as usually have at least one other person with me.
My husband does any night wakes Friday and Saturday. I do Sunday-Thursday. Any care during the day on the weekends we are near enough 50:50. He also gives me the night off on Thursdays and he will do everything our boy needs from 19:30 onwards. He works 08:00-16:30 Monday-Friday.
We have a 5 month old and both work full time from home. We have our parents Tuesday and Thursday and both do completely 50:50. I prefer doing the morning feed and he does the night one. I just can’t understand some dads that do nothing, even if they work…
I've gone back to work and my husband is now on shared parental leave. But we're still 50/50 splitting everything like we did when it was the other way round. Now we're bottle feeding not breastfeeding we've split the night in half, we take it in turns to do bath/bedtime and putting her down for naps, if one person is contact napping her the other one will make sure bottles etc are washed and housework is done. My husband obviously needs to cover more during the day when i'm working but otherwise I don't think it matters who works, childcare is a 24/7 job
There's no set standard on this tbh. My partner works Mon to Fri office hours, so I get up in the night with our baby 6 nights a week, giving me one night a week off. When he comes in from work though and weekends we are pretty much 50/50 with the baby then!
When they finish work or before they start work everything 50/50
Mine does weekend night feeds. During the week he helps me before he starts work, and takes over completely when he finishes, until he goes to bed. Mainly because I told him I'm fed up of nappies at that point 🤣 then I can cook, clean etc without interruptions
My partner does all Monday to Friday bedtimes so that he gets time to spend with our baby & I do weekends. We put her into her sleeping bag together each night. When he gets home at 6pm he usually wants a cuddle and a play with her while I finish cooking dinner. Just seems to work well that way! Weekends we share all time together x
When he's not working it should be 50:50. Overnight I suppose it depends on your baby. Mine wakes every hour and feeds once so I do the wakes and my husband does the feed so I get a 2 hour stretch of sleep. The moment he finishes work we share all parenting.