No friends - is it normal?

Motherhood is something different and now you have kids, it’s more likely you’re gonna lose those old friends. If you want to find friends, best to find some mum groups or go to baby groups. I have 1 mum friend I actually met on here and we are still good friends. I have met her several times. You can try on here too. Hope this helps. 🙂 xo

You haven't made any friends at work? School friends, college, Neighbours? Don't mean to make you feel bad but that seems very strange to me. What's the reason in your pov?

I’m a SAHM , no friends. Any friends I had don’t relate since becoming a mother. It’s lonely. I’m probably the problem honestly, I also am an introvert but meaningful relationships are an important part of life, so I’m working on it

@Halah I’ve always been an introvert. I had a few friends from university but I had kids right out of uni so all of those friends went off doing their own thing in life. I had my kids when I was 22 right after finishing uni, my life was just mom 24/7. So I hadn’t had a chance to work yet either and make colleague/friends. Since then, it’s been mom life, no time for me to do anything else. I had twins so baby groups etc meant I was running everywhere and couldn’t just make mom friends and relax. I’m working now but none of my colleagues are of my age and a couple that are, don’t have kids. Any people that I do start to talk to are always much older than me - in their 40s.

I’m happy to chat but I’m Southampton message me xx

I’m the same. I moved to a different city like 3 years ago and still haven’t made any friends. It sucksss and it’s very lonely lol

My bestfriend since 6th grade died last year and now it’s just me. I have acquaintances maybe dinner every once in a while but no one that feels like a true authentic friend if that makes sense

@Halah to provide you with some perspective, I ran with the wrong crowd in middle/high school and was kind of the good kid in the bunch so as I matured we distanced ourselves, then I moved away to college and that was the nail in the coffin. I had my one best friend from middle school who died last year. Other than that my college years I didn’t really try to make friends as I knew my mom’s life expectancy was short so my free time was with her or my now husband. Now as an adult I feel like making new friends is hard as most people already have their friend groups

I'm literally the same! Can always message me if you want :)

I wouldn't say I have any proper friends. I've had friendships while at college, work, through partners etc but none have stuck. I'm quite content with this though and fully understand it is mostly my issue because I find keeping up friendships draining. I'd be quite happy with a friend who is happy being contacted once a month or less 😂

I have a small number of really good friends. I used to have more friends but mostly outgrew them, and I'm happier this way. But I think it's really normal once you've had kids to narrow down your circle because you don't want bad influences around your children.

I have no friends other than my partner and my niece which may sound wiered but she is older then me 🤪 we have been best friends since we were little since my mom was the one to rise her. Not sure if that counts 😂

Incog, it is hard when you're in different stages of life to your peers. I don't think it has too much to do with being introverted though, I am very introverted and I've maintained friendships quite well. Although twin life sounds hectic, I have 3 kids under 5 so I totally get being busy with mum life, I still speak to my friend over the phone but rarely meet them. Also find it easier to make friends with women a lot older these days. @Daija sorry about your friend and your mum. Making friends definetly takes more effort as an adult. I made a new friend on here but that recently ended badly lol.

i’m 23 and have 0 friends. it definitely sucks

Well this post has made me feel like I’ve got you guys as friends. Thank god there’s others out there. 41 and I outgrew my old friends 2 years ago, so I have no one either, acquaintances don’t feel the same as a friend you can feel comfortable with as much as you do with your husband. It’s so weird how hard it is, I feel I should lower my standards but I am in self preservation mode now tbh. I keep telling myself that friends will come when the time is right and not to keep feeling like something is wrong with me. Stop putting on the pressure type thing.I’m a good, kind person but highly introverted. It is lonely but I do think this ‘phase’ must be needed so eventually I’ll meet one it two, it’ll come. Get some rose quartz in your life and set an intention. (I’ve just ordered some to see if it works so we’ll see😂)

Lmao I thought I was the only one

So happy (but sad) to see I’m not alone

I had a kid late in life so I can't relate to friends of mine who had kids young and are my age or who don't have kids and are my age.... To a degree. It depends on the person, tbh ....

I'm happy to chat, but from Leeds! It's so hard making friends as an adult 😪 especially as a mum too! Being one of them lone quiet ones at a playgroup or a park when others are with 2 or 3 other mums I'm like erm think we'll just stay at home next time kid but she likes it so we go sometimes

We should all connect!