I’m a terrible wife

I’d discuss opening the relationship if he is not working toward fulfilling your needs. He is blatantly choosing his porn addiction at this point so why not.

That’s not a terrible idea… that’s something that would be completely new for both him and I

I think it’d be fair honestly. I’d suggest it and him trying to get help.

I think ur marriage is done to be honest, if he can watch porn but not be Interested in you then he doesn’t have a problem with sex he has a problem with you. And it sounds like you’re both very unhappy. Opening the relationship isn’t gna fix ur marriage. Stop blaming urself. I would seriously consider what u want for ur future x

That’s what I was thinking, like maybe there’s something I’m doing or there’s no attraction, but he swears up and down that’s not it. I feel like he’s dropping money on me to get me to get over this “obstacle” and that kinda bothers me… we talked about everything and how we need to try and overcome last week but then within this past week he’s bought and told me about my Christmas, birthday, and Mother’s Day (🥴) gift all at the same time

I was having the same problem. It started to take a toll on me. I was so sexually frustrated. So I suggested a threesome with another guy. Because either we have sex or if you don’t want me let me be with someone else. We had sex yesterday ,but even then I was like he wasn’t putting his all just ficjing for a quick nut. At this point it’s either change the man or change the situation. What you are not changing you are choosing. 🙃

I don’t believe in open relationships- at some point someone is going to get hurt / develop feelings for someone else. I believe a marriage is a sacred thing between two people and if that’s not something that interests either of you anymore maybe the best idea is for you to split. Obviously he’s choosing watching porn to satisfy his sexual needs over being intimate with his wife. Which isn’t fair to you. I’d definitely have a talk with him and tell him if this is the way your sexual relationship is going to continue then you’re not interested in being part of it anymore and feel it’s best to move on. Also the gifts don’t make sense to me , sounds like he’s trying to buy your love and attention instead of giving it to you which isn’t going to fix anything and shouldn’t guilt trip you into staying in a marriage you don’t feel valued in.

I’m not trying to bee mean or make it like it unattractive, but maybe try to do your hair differently, wear sexy clothes around the house, do your make up try to look sexy and most of all don’t try to hook up with him, pay him no mind… do all this and he will start to chase u