Don’t know what to do

Iv been with my partner for 5 years now and I really thought the world of him for years but the past couple years have been just a awful rollercoster, before I got pregnant we had split up for a bit and already had trust issues. He’s had issues watching/looking at p*rn and half naked women on his phone. He had sworn to stop the first time I found out, I’d continue to find half naked woman on his phone after months of doing good. My trust, hope, and respect for him vanished. When we found out we were pregnant he promised he was gonna be a changed man for our baby and me. Weeks before my due date on the Fourth of July after spending time with my family. I walked in on him watching p*rn with his hand in his pants. We had been sexually active during pregnancy even when it was painful for me because he wouldn’t stop itching at it. That shattered me and we have never been the same. He denies doing any of it and gets upset when I bring it up or why I can’t trust him. He smothered me with love and care out of guilt but when the baby came he took such good care of me and the baby it’s been 3 months since, I watch our baby all day and night do our laundry and cook us dinner and clean. He’s Intentionally making me feel under appreciated ,Still gives me cold shoulder and it’s a chore getting him to talk to me about anything but as soon as I put the baby to sleep he’s all grabby and tries to get some action but still won’t talk to me . I’m struggling with ppd and already feel soo alone. I feel desperate for love but don’t want to ruin my daughters lil family. Hes the breadwinner and cares for her a couple hours at night and the weekends when I need a lil sleep even then makes me make up for it by guilt tripping me into doing double the work. I feel guilty for wanting more but have told him my feelings.

Show your support

I read this and this happened to me I don’t know what to say but me and sons father have a second child on the way and I don’t understand but after you have a child with someone you really see there true colors my brother had got killed a week after having my baby I had a c-section and my sons dad was having sex with another woman and even had the audacity to have her come to my house. I wanted to kill my self he called me names and everything but a child of God and I really set myself up by getting pregnant again if it helps get a therapist. Love yourself your are enough don’t let that man get to you because he wants to be a horny freak. Always put yourself for first for you and your daughter

Being a dad doesn’t mean being a good partner it’s something I learned being pregnant and having a baby, my child’s father is wonderful with our daughter but sometimes he isnt a good partner and tends to think about himself a lot, like for example I told him I had been feeling like I’m not enough lately and not sexy and that I want to feel like he wants me and he told me even if I told you were beautiful everyday you would still feel the same and that I should think about how he would feel telling him that like he’s a bad boyfriend and then when I explained this had nothing to do with him and maybe he should think about how I feel, I had just had a baby and am juggling everything and the house and we started arguing and somewhere in that argument he said I’m miserable and in that instance I learned I was, I was miserable around him cause he made me feel unloved, unappreciated, and like I was bother all the time and that opened my eyes to start fixing my life so I could leave

Don’t let any man make you feel uncomfortable or sad in the one place you’re supposed to run to for love and comfort.

PM me if you need to talk more ❤️ you’re not alone and things can get better with or without him.

Has he tried therapy for it? It is an addiction after all and he has shown he isn’t able to overcome it on his own. Of course he has to be willing and wanting to change.

Don’t give him an ultimatum but let him know what he must do to keep you mentally and physically healthy. If he think your expectations are unrealistic then you’ll know that he doesn’t want to change. But hopefully he will be willing to grow as you all continue to change as you get older 💕

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌