Am I being unreasonable…

Long story short, I’m struggling, i do all the the night feeds and I’m exhausted…. My partner goes to bed at 8pm and is asleep by 9. He gets in from work at about 4pm and I always cook us dinner even make him a cup of tea for when he gets in from work so he can atleast try and relax, hopefully with the baby when he gets in so I can get things done…. He gets up for work at 4am but he doesn’t actually start till 6am takes him 10 minutes max in the car to get there but he leaves at 5? Anyway I’m so so tired I just need to sleep longer than 3 hours and I’ve asked him if he would feed the baby at 4ish before he goes to work but he won’t??? I live far away from family too so I’m getting no support, just really struggling right now and I just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable with obviously my hormones 😩

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You’re not being unreasonable, it doesn’t sound like he’s being supportive or involved with your baby, you should sit down and talk to him before resentment builds

@Eilidh unfortunately I’ve tried talking to him several times saying I’m struggling but I’m not getting anything from him just that he has to work, I feel as if I’m already feeling resentment towards him and at the moment feeling like it would just be easier to move back home and be with my family.

My husband was like this initially as well and it was causing a huge issue between us. We now take shifts in the weekend as a compromise which means I get a nice long stretch of sleep at the weekend. It's not equal but it's something

Girl if he can't help you by feeding the baby at 4am, why the hell are you still cooking dinner and making him a cuppa? I bet you're doing his laundry too. Stop giving him your energy and focus on you and your baby. A relaxed and healthy mumma can give that to her baby. He's an adult he can take care of himself. If he can't help you, conserve your energy. Things will change later on when your child starts sleeping through the night xx

Why is he getting up and leaving so early? Definitely could be using this time to bond with baby and care for you I really hope this gets better for you! You’re doing the best and hardest job caring for your little one you need someone to care for you!! Xxx

Totally agree with what the girls above have said, especially May & if he does not help & moving home is an option even temporarily for the support, consider it! You gotta look after you in order to look after your baby!! Hope all goes well 🥰🥰

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