When to tell hubby I'm leaving
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You need to plan it out. Is there anyway you can have someone help move you out? I would tell him you are leaving him after you have everything you need out of the house and kid is at your parents.
I had to strategize mine. My ex husband was a raging alcoholic at the time. So there was a lot to plan. As others said there is never a great time to do it but you need to plan. Steps were as follows: 1. New place to live secured with a date. 2. Movers on day following. 3. Day of breakup friends and family are aware of game plan and watching down the dirt road or listening on the phone that I had left calling them to make sure I didn’t need help. 4. Prepare for the co parent talk/parenting plan thoughts. I told my exhusband we would talk more once emotions were not at all time high. 5. Sleeping arrangements the night of breakup. Let it be a friend, family or hotel. Just get out because emotions run high and irrational decisions could be made.
@Sarah ya mine isn't a drinker but has anger issues. I know it would be awkward and there will be problems the moment it happens. Unfortunately I can't drive currently and we're in a tiny town with no hotel.
@Bethany im so sorry mamas! I understand the concern. The minute I told my exhusband all of my stuff went flying across the room. He put in a phenomenal show Thank god I hid all his guns in the barn on the other side of the property. With that being said, I was the same situation/small town. No hotel. Dirt roads and prayer. I had planned to stay at a friends place to seek refuge while I waited for my parents to get into the state. Are your parents involved?
When you tell him- make sure your kids (his) are somewhere else. Without court papers- if he takes them to hug them and will not give them back- nothing you can do
You gotta first figure out how you’re going to leave I rlly don’t know why your parents would say that if he’s aggressive and in general bc you never know how some will respond. Just definitely make sure the kids aren’t there. Make sure you sign up for cash aid benefits and emergency housing if you can’t go to your parents.
Is there ever a good time to have this conversation? I just told my ex it was over, I didn't plan my getaway before doing it.
I don’t think there ever is a good time, your best doing it when you have things in place and are sorted.