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Babies can experience that from birth & if they are not readjusted / the tension is not released it can manifest into a very unhappy baby. Our son had tension all through his shoulders, neck & jaw. We saw a cranial osteopath called Nikki here in Colchester & she honestly made such a huge difference to my sons happiness & temperament. We still have our moments now, but its like night and day compared to what it was. If you need anyone to talk to, want to moan, or anything I’ve said resonates with you, please dont hesitate to message me. I made a bestie through this app who lives all the way up in Inverness as we were both really struggling with motherhood. We still message everyday (most of the day!) so distance is not an issue. Just knowing other mums haven’t found it all easy breezy helped us both hugely. Sending hugs. ❤️
Sending hugs. It does sound like you could use a bit of help from the IAPT team, give them a call if could really help! I'm not sure a baby who is always happy and content really exists. This being said I'm with you on the nappy change fights and I find it easier to sit him on the potty after meals and when he's done just sit him on my lap to wipe him (or lay his stomach on my nap to wipe his bum) He's done 2 poos even and its like night and day. If he had done it in the nappy would be 10 mins of screaming and him running away and he didn't mind doing it in the potty at all. Its a lot of time patiently waiting for him to do his business but no screaming involved as I make it fun with songs and books. Could be worth a try! With the cot - I babyproofed the whole flat and he does just run around. I can shut him in the bedroom with me at least. I taught him to safely crawl off the sofa/bed on his stomach, feet first. Good luck! Also his crying doesn't mean you're a bad mum !
With you on sleep and sorry I have no advice. I don't even tell anyone how badly my baby sleeps unless they tell me first theirs is the same. Because I doubt many people can understand. Family asks us if he sleeps through and the fact they think that's possible shows how different their experience was and they literally have no idea what I go through. I know I'm not alone though, due to the Internet! My partner doesn't even get it as he's such a heavy sleeper won't even wake from being hit in the face by the LO! He has absolutely no idea what I do every night latched onto all night. I try not to think about it and hold onto the idea that it's not forever
Everything that you have described was how I felt when I'd had my firstborn. Please be reassured that things do & will get better. Its not going to feel/be like this forever & you all will be able to have a good nights sleep again. Sending hugs🤗x
@Alex i feel your pain with sleep my LG hadn't slept ONE night since she was born. She is 13 months old now and we co sleep so she is close to me.
Hey girlie, firstly, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Having a child who is unsettled most of the time is really hard to deal with & something a lot of mums can not relate to, so it can feel isolating. I just wanted to ask whether your son happens to have reflux or silent reflux? (Can last to 18 months) It’s the first thing that came to my head as my son was very similar, super wingey, unsettled, always crying, sick all the time, super hard work. Even nappy changes now are full of tears unless I put “miss apple” on my phone at the same time to distract him. I ask about reflux because we were told that it was colic and would pass, but it never did, the turning point for us was speaking to “the baby reflux lady” on instagram who helped point us to the right people for help - tongue tie release, body tension work etc. Traumatic births can also have a huge impact on babies. Imagine when you have a sore back because you’ve slept funny or pulled a muscle…