cosleeping vs not

We never coslept with either of our kids. I’ve never gotten hate for it, but I think some people are definitely surprised. And that’s bullshit, you don’t need to cosleep to bond with your baby. Don’t let it bother you.

My co-sleeping had nothing to do with bonding it was just the only way I could get some sleep! If I wasn’t a single parent and had someone to help I probably wouldn’t have. She is 16 weeks and does sleep in her bed sometimes now (she’s been back in mine the last 2 weeks off and on because she hasn’t been well)

I cosleep with my baby but I wish I didn't have to. I wish she slept through the night and self settles but she just doesn't. Its the quickest and easiest way to get her back to sleep but she won't go back to sleep in her next to me. I'm hoping by getting her a cot that will get her to sleep better. You gotta do what's best for you and your baby, if they are sleeping through the night why change that

I've never coslept with my 7 month old and don't plan to at all unless she ever has really bad nightmares or is poorly when she's older. Even then, I'd try and avoid doing it for long as don't want her to get used to it!

I have coslept since week 5, i don't like the fact that it's the only way my baby sleeps and am honestly quite jealous of those that don't need to! So long as you aren't judging those that do i see no reason for people to hate on yoh!

My son is 16 months and he's only ever slept in my bed twice because he was ill. I don't sleep great when he's next to me so I much prefer him being in his own bed 🤣

@Lauryn i feel for all the single mamas. as long as you’re both getting sleep and baby is safe at night when you’re cosleeping then you’re doing everything right in my book.

@Kerrie 100% agree. we really lucked out with my son refusing his pacifier at two months and switching to self soothing with his fingers. it’s crazy to me how fast other moms are to judge even when you’re doing everything by the book.

@Phoebe that’s my fear as well. if he falls asleep on me during the day i take in the snuggles for a few minutes and go lay him down in his bed because i’m scared he will become dependent on cuddling. i do feel guilty that i don’t cuddle him when he’s sleeping but he gets all of the cuddles when he’s awake and playing🥰

I WISH I could get my little one in his own bed, he’s 13 months and he refuses to sleep unless he’s in our bed. I wish I never caved because I’m finding it so hard at the moment!!

I coslept for like 1 week when he was around 7 months because he wasn’t sleeping at all and it was a last resort. I don’t think I’ve been judged for it though, although I don’t think it’s that shocking in the UK if you don’t cosleep. Deffo still have a great bond with my boy 😆🩷

@Kerrie yes co sleeping was the only way my second would sleep for a bit too after he was born. I would put him in his pack n play he’d immediately start crying. Eventually after a couple months this got better though. But when he was newborn he just wanted his mom.

It’s hard to get them into their own beds when you co sleep. Co slept with my 2 year old for a bit after he was a year old, and now I have to sleep in his bed with him at night then sneak out of his toddler bed, or else he won’t go to sleep. I guess I still do if you count that lol but it’s only way my 2 year old will sleep. If I don’t do that he will try to come into my bed and sleep on my bed with me.

Lg is 2. We’ve never co slept she also self settles in her own sleep space. We are very much bonded! I brought her in my bed the other month when ill and she asked to go back to her cot 🤷🏼‍♀️ Yet I co slept with my son for a long time. I didn’t want to Co sleep again but Whatever works 😄

Mine sleeps in his bed every night but there are occasions he wakes crying and I will put him in my bed. We also had a week where he had bronchitis so he slept in my bed then. He actually sleeps better in his own bed x

We co slept a few times and only after she turned 6m now up until then she was always in her cot and now we're transitioning back to the cot too after 2 weeks of co sleeping only because I was staying at my parents place and no cot there. I don't think it has any corelation to bonding at all and there's no win with judgemental parents / people. Just do you, you're doing great mama

I did so much research before I did it to ensure she is safe. I was still terrified at first but being a light sleeper anyway helps ☺️ It was certainly safer than falling asleep holding her accidentally ❤️

I partly Co sleep and definitely advocate for safe Co sleeping when people are struggling with night wakes (for breastfed babies!) but I would much prefer my baby slept in her cot without any issues so there's no way I would talk negatively if someone who is lucky enough to have that work for them! You're super lucky, enjoy the sleep!

I think it depends on what works for you and your baby! If you got a unicorn who happily sleeps independently in their crib then that’s awesome I’d just roll with it! Many babies do not naturally sleep independently happily like yours - which is normal. Some parents try to ‘train’ the baby to sleep in a crib with various methods and other parents resort to safe bedsharing. My boy would only ever sleep in contact with me, latched. So for me to survive we had to fully contact nap and bedshare. If I unlatched him, tried to sneak away, or tried to transfer him to a crib then he woke up and cried 🤷‍♀️ Due to my boy’s sensitive temperament any sleep training method would have been traumatic and cruel so we went down the attachment route instead because that’s what he needs 🥰

I've co slept twice ever. Both times were on vacation with family and the baby wouldn't stop screaming at 2 am in a shared house. I'm not against it but my bed is my bed. I sleep naked with a heavy quilt in a cold room and I'm not changing that lol my mom has given me shit about it once or twice because she had all of us kids sleep in bed with her but she knows my kids are happy and well loved even in their own beds lol

Never co slept bc I’m a crazy person in my sleep…my baby is too I’m learning 🤪🤪🤪🤪