Is my MIL right or is she being insensitive????
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@Alexus he does mind, that’s why my MIL got involved
Then you need to explain to him how you feel and how serious it is that you get help first and how much her opinion isn't helping. Because even if he cares her opinion is still irrelevant. She isn't making the situation any easier and the only thing that can fix that is you communicating it with him. Men don't understand how our emotions work. When I had PPD my boyfriend felt completely helpless because he couldn't even comprehend how I felt on a day to day basis. You need to sit him down and talk to him.
@Alexus we have had many conversations.
She's not right and she's not just insensitive, she's a bitch. Everyone is different, their mental health struggles are different, different workplaces are different. Some people can work, some can't. There's also a world of difference between being established in a profession and then developing mental health issues, and having serious mental health issues and trying to start a brand new job.
I think the way she said it was very insensitive. Is it possible to work with mental health issues? Yes. Is it easy to work with mental health issues? No absolutely not. 9 times out of 10 it's hard to get out of bed with mental health issues I couldn't imagine forcing my way to work. Not to mention you can both have mental health issues while struggling with different things. I struggled with PPD really bad after my second child to the point of therapy and medication. Even on the therapy and medication I couldn't have forced myself to work. Now I still struggle from some depression but I'm no longer medicated and I'm not seeing a therapist(but probably should) and I could definitely work now. She doesn't know how you're feeling. And if I'm being honest her feelings shouldn't matter. If your fiance isn't bothered by you not working then that should be all that matters. Her opinion is irrelevant.