Should I break up with my bd?

So I am in a long distance relationship with my bd and on a trip back is when I got pregnant. When I told him he told me to get an abortion and even after I told him I wouldn’t he still refuses to tell his parents or anyone he pretends it doesn’t exist. I asked him to get a job because he still lived with his parents (we are 19 and 20) and he said he would but it’s been a month and he can’t seem to get one. I have offered to pay for him to move out here with me but he will have to get a full time job and we will be moving back in with my parents till the baby is older and he has refused to make any effort to move out. I don’t want to break up because I don’t want to be a single mom but as it is I feel like his mom I pay for everything even his books in college (that he doesn’t even do he is always complains of how hard it is and never turns things in on time also it’s all online so he can move no issue) also I’m sorry if this is all jumbled together I’m really emotional any advice would be really nice.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this! It’s completely unfair and he’s acting like a spoiled child (no, way worse than that). It’s your call, but I don’t think anything good will come out of staying with such a man. He will not be a good father to your baby and he will not support you. He will be in the way of you potentially meeting a man who will truly love and care for you and your baby. I say break up with him as heartbreaking and hard as it is. Sending you my kindest thoughts of support!

It sounds like he’s using you. I’m sorry. You should not be paying for everything! And the fact you are is why he keeps you around. It’s a blessing in disguise that he doesn’t want to move in. Break up with him. It’s better to be a single parent than be with someone using you, especially with him keeping the baby a secret.

As tough as it may sound, if you’re already parenting him now, imagine how will it be raising an adult + a newborn. He’s already showing you he doesn’t want to be there and is not giving you support with your decision. You may not want to be a single mom, and it will be challenging, but it’ll be 10x worse having a partner and getting no help from them. You and your baby will be so much happier without the stress. Don’t try to make someone grow up who’s showing you they’re not ready. So sorry you’re going through this.

In my experience, he sounds like a huge mess. I honestly think it would be easier for you to be a single mom than to be trying so hard to be with him. Doesn’t seem like he wants a baby and you cant force him to want a baby. I would distance myself from him if I were in your situation

It sounds like you might be together just for the baby and because you got pregnant. He’s given you many signs he doesn’t really intend on being involved on how you want him to. I would break up and focus on you and your baby.

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