Pissed off and tired

My baby has been in a sleep regression the past 3 days. I’ll spend 3 hour stretches trying to get him back to sleep failing multiple times to set him down. With crying wake ups in between his sleep cycles where I pat him back to sleep for 10 minutes or so. My boyfriend said he would get up with him last night since he didn’t have to work today. He decided to stay up until 2:45am. The baby woke up at 2:45am. I asked him to put a bottle in because he has been biting me. He fed him, burped him, and put him back in his bassinet and the baby immediately started crying. I told him that he isn’t just going to go back to sleep and reminded him that he said he would get up with him. He said “I did get up with him. I’m tired.” This man thinks “getting up” with him is literally only feeding him. He didn’t even change his diaper I did. I’m beyond pissed, more so that he even offered something that wasn’t on the table. I’ve spent the last 3 nights crying in a rocking chair begging my baby to go back to sleep because I’m so fucking tired. He has his own business and has been worked tirelessly to pay for everything because in a STAHM. He also hasn’t bonded with the baby much because he cries with him. I’ve told him the only way he’s going to start bonding with him is if he in fact is taking care of him when he is crying. Not just holding him when he’s happy and then handing him to me when he’s “had enough.” He really is a good dad to our baby, but the whole sleep regression thing is really taking a toll on us.

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I guess my question is does he ever get up with the baby at night? Like prior to sleep regression, since birth has he gotten up with the baby? And I’ve been in the same situation where I called my ex “a good dad” and all he did was play with our daughter when she was happy and then play video games for 75% of the day when we were both home. Now I’m not trying to project but truly ask yourself is he taking on enough responsibility with your child? Regardless of you being a sahm he helped you create a child so he’s gotta help take care of it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ side note: I did have an honest conversation with him about it and he has since significantly improved but it did take having the conversation and putting boundaries in place for him to become the father he is now

@Ashlee literally in the same boat except it’s not my ex it’s my fiancé we are gonna have words if he doesn’t help out more when she starts crawling everywhere

You’ve got this girl, I know you’ll be reading this now thinking just be quiet, I want it to stop but I promise it’ll pass. I’m a single mum who does it all by myself and I quite like it like that cause the thought of being let down by the dad would set me off even more. I’ve had soooo many sleepless nights with my boy, co sleeping was the only way I could have my eyes shut for longer than hour and then him waking up and not going back to sleep for atleast an hour maybe an hour an half it’s so so hard but you’ll look back and feel so much mum guilt because of the way that sleep regression made us feel. The more we look at others and think why can’t you do this, why won’t you help the more it affects us I think. How old is your bubba, then I can maybe suggest a few things for you to try as I’ve been in the same position so many times xxx

@Danielle he is almost 6 months old he wakes up randomly screaming at night unless he’s being held 😭

@Ashlee he did before he got really busy at work and I was VERY postpartum lol

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