We still lay with our 3.5yo till she falls asleep and she wakes in the night and comes to our bed and sleeps with us. I don't see it changing soon but also number 2 is due in 3 months so some adjustments will need to be made!
I put my daughter to bed and give her book to look at the pictures. I leave her room's door open and light on in the corridor..she fell asleep by herself.
I still sit with my son until he falls asleep. Sometimes I reckon I could leave him and he’d fall asleep but to be honest, I love that bit of quiet and calm together before bed… I find it really helps me wind down too. I’ve never felt the need for him to put himself to sleep tbh, he’s only going to be this little for a short time, one day he’ll be begging me to leave him alone so I’ll take these moments while I can. As for night wakes, they’re rare but yeah, usually a case of figuring out what he needs and then sitting/laying with him until he drifts off which doesn’t usually take long x
We still rub my sons back and stay with him until he falls asleep. We are slowly trying to phase it out but it’s so hard x