Confident being a mom

It's been 8 weeks since I had my baby, and things are definitely getting better, but I still don't feel confident as a mom. I often have no idea what she needs or wants. I'm just kind of winging it and seeing what works. Her cries still upset me because I worry I won't be able to figure out why she's crying or how to soothe her. I struggle with putting her down for a nap and worry about a nighttime as I have no idea how we made that one work. I love her, but I don't feel like I'm truly connected to her and her needs. I don't feel there is a strong bond. When did this get better for you? Or did you have the feeling from the start?

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Hi download the Napper app it helps with sleep and routine. make sure u get her burps up after every feed, and u will feel the connection in time. It’s all new to u both xx

Girl I have 3 kids the oldest being 8 and youngest 9 months and I still don’t always know if I’m doing the right things! It gets easier for sure but you’re never 100% confident… in my opinion

I think most of us are winging it 🙈 I bet you're doing much better than you think! Has she started smiling yet? That is when I first had a feeling of enjoying being a mum. Then after 14 weeks things just suddenly got way easier and I'm just loving spending my time with my little boy now ❤️

Everyone is winging it! The fact you are worried shows how bonded you actually are. Try enjoy it, this time won't last forever....and none of us know what we are doing! Thank God for the Internet lol

I'm still winging it at 8 months. Honestly I always struggled with my boys hunger cues (he didn't really do hunger cues because of a feeding aversion). You will learn as you go and notice patterns. It gets easier as you get to know each other. My boy for example always scratches his head when he's getting tired so that's an easy way to know it's nap time, and he is also super excited and has a huge burst of energy just before he crashes out.

Also getting stressed when they cry is natural and I still get stressed or even angry if I hear him cry. Sometimes I get annoyed with my partner if he's not stopping the crying fast enough 😅 it also took a while for me to really feel a strong bond. I think now our bond is really great and he's such a mummy's boy. But there were a lot of struggles to get there and times I felt low. There were times I felt he hated me because I couldn't calm him down. When people say it gets easier it 100% does. I'm still struggling with his sleeping though and tonight is one of those nights where me and my partner are taking it in shifts to hold him while he sleeps.

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