I need your opinion please ladies

In the post it keeps saying “ don’t co parent” do you mean you do co parent?

No we don’t co parents at all he just comes everyday to see her, he also pay child support everytime

If you aren’t together then you are coparenting lol. But if you want a relationship I think you should just be open with him about it, especially considering his behavior

If he is there everyday with you taking care of her with you and you are not together then that is coparenting 🙃 lol but yeah I would just have a conversation with him and if he wants to continue being in your home and in your bed then there needs to be some boundaries in order to give you some clarity otherwise he is just leading you on if he doesn’t plan on staying in your life in the capacity.

If y’all are hooking up and there’s no title that’s co parenting in a way but if you want more have a conversation with him because it sounds like yall are in a relationship whether yall wana admit it or not

I know what mean about the co parenting but even tho he sees her everyday I still need to help him for example make the bottle when she cries, or she when she want to sleep I am the one who put her to sleep, that’s why I said we don’t co parents I do mostly everything, he’s a bit old fashion where the woman cares for the baby like his mum did

If he pays child support and comes to see the baby and yall aren’t together then he is coparenting. If you want a title then you need to stop sleeping with him and doing things people do while they’re in a relationship and tell him you’d rather just be friends if yall aren’t going to have a title. For him it’s easy because he can get whatever he wants from you and he doesn’t even have to commit. Stop giving yourself away so easily

So you want a man that’s not gonna make it official, not help you take care of his child, but will still come over, hit it, get fed and be free to still do what he wants because it’s not official.. is this the type of relationship you would want your daughter to have one day with someone? If the answer is no, then you know what to do.

@Wendi this is exactly what it was like with my babys dad (apart from he'd try hooking up but I didn't want it - I wanted the help with the baby) so I kicked him out as I wasn't getting help. But yeah that is co-parenting but I think the best option is to stop sleeping with him for now and have an open conversation about him regarding what you both want from this. If he wants to carry on how it is without the label then I'd stop giving him what he wants but if you both decide you want more then great 🙂

@Wendi exactly! Like a “As long as he comes home to me” type situation.. you can’t get what you want by showing him you have no standards. Set the bar and make him either be with you or move out the way so someone can. What you two are doing is kind of toxic.. just holding a spot in each other’s lives and when one decides to move on, feelings are going to be hurt.

I will have a talk with him, and set up boundaries. I agree with all of you thank you xx