Kissing baby!? Opinions..
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We have a no kissing boundary for both of our kids (3 year old & 5 month old) some people were okay with the boundary and others weren't. At the end of the day as the parent you get the final say and if you want a no kissing boundary it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. I know how difficult it can be when there's problems with the MIL so feel free to drop me a message if you want someone in the same boat to chat to 🥰 x
I wouldn’t go back on what you want because one person is upset, at the end of the day you are protecting your baby. I don’t know if this helps but my little girl is 5 months old and (touch wood) we haven’t had any colds or illnesses yet, only myself and my husband are allowed to kiss her. I think after winter has gone I will let others kiss her but I’d love to get her through the next few months without RSV, I’m super anxious about it. Whatever you do just make sure you’re comfortable! It’s hard but you know what’s best for your bub. Good luck!
NOBODY but my husband and I kiss my daughter period. She’s almost 15 months and it is my BIGGEST rule. She has only been sick once and it was very mild. Until she can verbally understand and say yes or no, nobody is allowed to kiss her and I might even go beyond that and just say no kissing but she can give hugs.
no one is allowed to kiss my daughter besides her father and i. it’s a non negotiable. her health and wellbeing comes before other people feelings! other people (grandparents & family) may give her a kiss once she is old enough to consent for herself.
My baby girl is almost 6 months and nobody has kissed her about from me and my partner. And it will stay like that until we are ready!
We had the same boundary in place when my little girl was born and to start with my mum didn't understand, but then I think she must have looked into RSV herself and now she totally gets it - maybe shown her actual facts and stories of babies with RSV and she would surely come around?
Unpopular opinion - but grandparent or not why do people feel the need to kiss other peoples children who can’t even give consent to it? When I was a kid and had to kiss my grandparents I hated it and felt uncomfortable! My daughters 2 this month and i cannot stand people kissing her, I had a rule when she was a baby and it still stands in the colder months to try n stop her getting ill but other than that if people ask her for a kiss I always say no it’s weird unless she kisses me or her dad!
Stick to your boundaries! Freaking out over being unable to kiss a child that isn’t yours is weird.. super weird. Add on to that you’re asking them not to kiss to prevent the baby getting sick? That should be pretty understandable and a respected boundary. If she’s throwing a fit over not kissing your baby, then she’s being selfish asf and does not care about the health of your child. Who cares if she ignores you, your baby is infinity times more important to you than she is so she can get over it
@Becca agreed !!!!!
Stick to your guns. Based on how your MIL is reacting I think your husband needs to do a better job of talking about boundaries as a team (you and him) decision. Sounds like he might’ve phrased it as “{insert your name here} wants to institute a rule about not kissing the baby” rather than “due to high risk of illness and RSV, in combination with our little one having been sick a few times, WE have decided to institute a no kissing the baby rule.”
Also I agree with what Becca said.
Stick to your guns especially as your little one has been getting ill a lot. We have a no kissing rule and it’s been so hard to stick to it when people kept going against me but I had to keep repeating myself so they got the message. I’m a bit more relaxed now as my little one has had all her jabs but still want to limit kissing as much as possible due to RSV season