I know I should leave but don’t want to be a baby mother to two different men smh

I met my last daughter’s father 2 years ago and everything was amazing at the beginning. But after finding out I was pregnant really quick into the relationship everything changed, his baby mother became very present in the relationship and he stopped helping in the house He just ust thought his presence was enough. But when Kenzie was born that’s when he really stopped doing anything, but started pushing his son on me too. So that’s 3 kids under 5 and I work. I could write a book on everything else but long story short is it weird that I was told that if we don’t take his son full time then we can’t work. Mind you with the schedule we have now I would have all 3 kids to take care of while still working full time cause he works overnight. Sounds like he has someone else in the shadows or am I pushing it?

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Ur not pushing it 💕

What does his mum do?? Does /could he not go to nursery or could they not hire a child minder? I’m confused on why you must have him FULL TIME?? I would say sure as long as you’re going to pay for any loss of earnings because having the child fully isn’t your responsibility, but also shouldn’t necessarily be an issue if he’s your daughters sibling, it’s the “all the time or we won’t work out” but that’s baffling. why can’t the son’s mom have him/ help contribute towards you having him? Or considering it is HIS son, if there’s an issue with her, why can’t HE have him and you help sometimes?? If she is very involved maybe they want the alone time? I wouldn’t say you’re pushing it but it is very strange

@Kayla his mom claims she needs help managing cause she has an older daughter too, also she lives with her mom who helps While he met me as a full single parent no family in the state I live in but they expect me to handle everything Reason why I said would have them alone is in the mornings I get my 2 and myself ready and out the house by 6:15 and when I get off I have to rush nd pick them up do everything with them til it’s time for bed. With his schedule we don’t cross paths until the weekend and even with that he comes in plays with the baby for an hour and sleeps until it’s time for work

Hmmm yeah that’s a little strange to me tbh.. you and his other baby mom both have 2 kids then but she’s only capable of watching 1 older child while you can watch 3 young kids???? Yeah sorry absolutely not! Not unless the older daughter has difficulties and needs the extra attention/care? because even that, why can’t his mom watch the son if she’s aware of the issue or the moms other family members?? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with helping here and there as like I said, it is your child’s sibling, but ALL THE TIME?? Absolutely not sorry

I have 2 bds 🤷‍♀️

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