Need advice from an experienced moma or anyone really don’t know how to feel anymore
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If I were you I’d be fighting for custody. He obviously isn’t all in on his child and there’s no reason he should have to grow up hearing his dad talk about him like that. If you’re not ready to talk custody now, that’s okay. But if this continues then one day you’ll be ready and you’ll want all the proof you can get that he is an unfit father. Save the text conversations and make notes of dates when he has acted this way. I’m sure you love him and that’s okay, but he needs to either be there for his son or STAY AWAY! Fathers think they can just make the mother do everything and it doesn’t have to be that way without consequences.
@Samantha I do want to go for custody i know 100% he will not take care of him. He keeps saying he gunna try for full custody and as sad as it sounds it makes me laugh because there’s no way in HELL he keeps saying he’s gunna file for full custody and that he’s gunna get a nice expensive lawyer to get him granted custody he says if I find a man he will go for custody a fking real life walking joke🤦♀️. I’m sorry for all that but thank you for hearing me out I appreciate it you helped🫶🏻🫶🏻
@Akiyla thank you
From what you’re saying there is literally no way he’ll get full custody 😭 my bf has 2 kids and we’re currently working toward getting sole custody of them. His other bm has had sole custody of them for the longest time until the past year she’s been getting in trouble for drinking and that’s the only reason we’ve been able to have the kids. Honestly there wasn’t a good reason for my bf to not at least have partial custody of his kids but courts like to side with the mother on these things. And even now with her going to jail multiple times in the last year for multiple charges including child endangerment, she’s still managed to get weekends and summers with the kids. As long as you keep evidence I bet the most he will get is visitations. Don’t really understand how he can treat his kid that way then say he’s gonna pay a bunch of money for a lawyer. Like dude just treat your kid right and I bet you guys wouldn’t even have to go to court.
@Samantha that’s so fked I know sometime the father deserves more the system is a mess I hope that works in your guys favor 🫂. And I don’t want to be the one keeping him from his kid but he deserves so much better and my instincts tell me to keep him away for his sake. I wanted to stay away from the courts because of all the extra stress but I just might have to if this continues going on like this not to mention he’s never bought a box of diapers NOTHING not a single onsie not a single toy literally has contributed nothing to our boys wellbeing I don’t want to be the one at the child support office either but I’m getting so fed up
You said you won’t keep a father away from his son but this is toxic and unhealthy behavior and that is going to hurt your son more in the long run than him simply being absent. You SHOULD be keeping him away. He sounds like he has some very serious issues he needs to work through and is definitely not mentally stable to be around a child. And taking the baby and running away? You have to draw a line somewhere and put your child first. Not him.
@Becca yeah you’re right. I just know how that that felt for me in that moment not being able to have my baby in my arms not being able to do anything I just wouldn’t want anyone to feel that way even him I just can’t understand why or how he could be doing this it’s literally unbelievable he has no fatherly instinct at all and I feel so bad for him I feel bad he’s missing out on so much love and fulfillment I just wanted him to feel what I feel for our baby It’s so sad but it does need to be done your right
Y’all are young … you have to let him be (as hard as it is as hard as it sounds.) He has to grow up on his own , you can’t raise a man baby. Your son will get to age where he realizes who did what and who didn’t.