Really struggling… antidepressants?

I’ve really been struggling for over a year now when I found out my husband has been unfaithful, but I (stupidly) ended up staying with him mainly because our baby boy was so young (only 5 months) and I didn’t want to give up on giving him a family… fast forward to a year later and we have a whole second baby, but my husband’s infidelity is a huge reoccurring issue. At this point my marriage is completely broken and we are living apart, and I’m realizing I have an extremely unhealthy codependency on my husband who obviously doesn’t give a shit about me, while taking care of 2 under 2 basically completely on my own. I struggle with getting out of bed every day let alone feeling like I’m not doing nearly enough for my babies 😔 I am working with a therapist but I just feel like it isn’t helping enough and I need to do something different. I’ve always been super against antidepressants but I’m starting to feel like maybe it’s the boost I need (ideally just temporarily) to change my mindset and start creating some healthier habits. I’m also breastfeeding my youngest so I’m just super hesitant about it all. Can anyone share their experiences with antidepressants? Is it worth it?

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There are definitely medications that are safe to take while nursing. I hope you find a provider for medication management that can find a good fit for you. I’m so sorry you’re struggling. It’s tough taking care of kids with a broken heart.

Sorry to hear that - you are very strong to cope with that! I was on off anti depressants in my 20s I do not reccomend - they make you numb and coming off can make you feel suicidal. The suggestions Vanessa made are great. I found 5HTP was good in combination with vitamin D and St. John’s wort. I don’t take the latter anymore but take Lions mane which is good for general brain health. Excercise really helps - your muscles are a happy factory when they are clenched they create endorphines so even a walk with some extra bum clenching! will do wonders. Reach out to others, try to have someone you check in with weekly who is a friend not a therapist. Force yourself to find joy in little things, practice gratitude - it actually really helps. Treat yourself daily - some chocolate, a face mask, whatever it is just not alcohol! Don’t be afraid to tell people you are struggling they will want to help and support you. Music is also medicine! make an upbeat playlist! You got this.

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