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You won’t shake it off, it’s an awful feeling and tomorrow it might feel worse. I promise you though, once you see them together you’ll feel so different. I had the same guilt & worries ahead of my elective section but once I got to the hospital I felt ok. Our LG then came to meet her little sister the following day and I kid you not, my heart doubled in size seeing them together, it was the most heartwarming thing I have ever seen. I don’t know how old you LO is but our girl is 2 next month and I’m fairly sure she has no recollection of what it was like before baby sister arrived. Honestly, I feel your guilt & upset but it will pass and you’ll wonder what you ever worried for xx
@Mia thank you so much. My son is 2.5, I agree it won’t be long until he can’t remember any different. I’m also having a section so this was really helpful - thank you. How have you found recovering from the surgery whilst also having your little girl??
@Hannah thank you - I have a brother who is only 15 months older than me, neither of us have ever felt left out and we’re very close as adults still. It’s just an adjustment I suppose - we need to be kind to ourselves
I cried basically the entire time in hospital thinking about my 2 year old and the guilt. He had the best time with grandparents, didn’t want to come home😂. But since he came home he’s not left his brothers side, is besotted with him and loves helping. I completely get the worry but honestly I was worried for no reason!
It’s certainly been tough, more so than when I had my first (unplanned section) because I haven’t felt like I can just do nothing and actually properly rest. However you really have to try because otherwise recovery will take longer. I would say the first 4 days were hardest and then by day 5 I started to feel more mobile and able to do things with my older girl. I think if you can explain that you’ve got a poorly tummy so can’t lift them and do the usual stuff, it really helps. It’s actually been easier than I expected with our little girl, she hasn’t actually asked to be picked up or carried once and she’s just climbed up onto the sofa to me for a cuddle. If you can keep things relatively normal but with slight adaptions, I think you’ll be grand. xx
I feel worried about leaving my toddler to give birth, worried she’ll wonder where I am and be upset asking for me 🥲 guess we just have to get used to it and they’ll be fine in the end, I’ve got siblings and never felt left out as we had each other