Husband tells me he’ll find sex somewhere else!

So my husband and I are on holiday to his home country and another country for a month and have been enjoying it. However I had caught really bad food poisoning and because I’m breastfeeding have had it for longer than everyone else because I can’t take medication. Last night I still had the shits, I still felt weak and my stomach really aches. My husband came happy in the room and I said I needed a hug and he says I can give you something better and I knew he was meaning sex. I told him I still have the shits which he still had too but he was better. I tell him no I’m not well. he says okay what about a handjob or bj. This is where I get annoyed at him, I told him I’m not well he has seen all day that I’m not well and we have a 6 month btw that I look after where’s my energy!!! I tell him so what you want me to just pleasure you even though I’m sick? To where he said yeah and this got me more annoyed that he doesn’t actually care about me or having a connection during sex it’s just a quick pleasure which I told him. TO WHICH HE REPLIED- IM A MAN, IF I CANNOT GET IT FROM YOU ILL HAVE TO GO SOMEWHERE ELSE!!! He got annoyed at me and is a mood with me and tried being loud in our room to wake up our 6 month who sleeps in a cot next to us. What an absolute ASSHOLE. WHO DOES THIS MAN THINK HE IS!!! Guys we have not had sex for 5 days. He was complaining that is was a week and I said so what it’s not, as if we don’t have sex all the time and I’m ill. This little childish man proceeded to masturbate it the toilet while I was feeding our baby in the middle of the night because of it. Like what a fucking loser. This has put me off so much and I actually feel so much better today. He could’ve just waited one freaking day but because he didn’t get what he wanted he turned into an asshole. I cannot stand this man and a thought occurred to me that if my son turned out like this I would be extremely disappointed in him
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😲😲oh wow!! 😣 That's so unkind. I'm so sorry!!

Girl, why are you still with this piece of trash?! That’s so icky and gross, you’re not a toy to be used as his demand 🤢

no absolutely not. i’d be leaving him. clearly his true feelings and you are not there to please him. if he wants to go find it somewhere else then so be it and you go find better❤️

There has been a few instances now that have made me want to leave him and I almost did. I’m currently in a country where I don’t think it’ll be a good idea so waiting till I get back home to start making a plan

I would not be putting up with ultimatums like that, even if you weren’t ill. I’m actually disgusted. If you’re in a position to leave him, I would be seriously making steps to do so - the permanent ick I’d have would be insurmountable.

Run as soon as you can

Can you not leave without him? How much longer you got until you are home?... That is so wrong on so many levels... I'd be getting my baby and getting on the next flight home and getting my stuff and leaving him before he came home. I'd also tell him 'go on then... Go find someone to give it you... And also make sure that she's a keeper because you ain't coming back to me now' also he needs to realise... He isn't a 'man' to treat you like he had done!

@Jen I’m in Pakistan atm and everyone can be bribed here and I’m also half Asian but not Pakistani so it’ll be difficult for me atm

Wow what a horrible man!! I’d be fuming and so hurt if my man said that to me, so disgusting. Get that flight home hun and think about you and that baby x

If my son ever treats their partner like this I will have failed as a parent. The AUDACITY. Seriously bin this pathetic loser and find someone who respects you. I'm sorry your husband sucks.

Wow! I wouldn't want my son anywhere near this pathetic man! Id be making plans to leave him once home.

If I were you I’d leave. If not for ur sake, for your child’s. I see this behaviour a lot where I work, he is showing traits of an abuser and you don’t want that around your child. His behaviour around the child and whilst In the room with the child also signals risks for the child. I know it’s hard to leave someone you love but we are strong Mummas and we do what’s best for our children. We hear stories and see on the news stuff and say never me never my family but those people said it too. Get out when you can but do it safely and if u do leave remember to stay strong and firm with your decision. The hardest part is leaving but once that settles it’s only up from there x

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Since you are in Pakistan and understand things are done differently there. I will advise you to endure and act like all is well until you get back home. Once home, you can decide on the next steps. Be safe and take care of you and baby. His actions and attitude are inexcusable, giving the fact that he is aware you aren't feeling well and still choose to act in such a selfish and childish manner all because of sex.

Holy. His priorities are messed. Man child 2.0 over there.

Oh my.... jesus, yes get out of there the second you can. When are you guys leaving pakistan?

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Yes please get put ASAP! It will only get worse

Has he hit you???

I hope you’re ok!!

Wow!! Nah leave his sorry ass mama. I’m 31 and husband is 40 we have a 14 month old and honestly we can go weeks and I mean weeks without it. We’re both just exhausted. Saying he will get it from somewhere else…that’s not ok

I hope you are safe right now? Anything else I have to say doesn’t matter now!

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