Boundaries

Honestly discuss when you want visitors to come etc, even during your time in hospital so you don't get your wires crossed. Plus you'll want time to just be together in your own little baby bubble x

When we had our son, my in laws thought it was their duty to come round every.single.day to 'walk the dog'. I was perfectly capable of doing it myself and it was one of my few excuses to get out the house sometimes!! It drove me absolutely insane. This time I have made it clear to my husband that he needs to say something if it starts happening again as I'm not putting up with it.

i have a list of 11 rules i’d call them, i’m going to be putting in place if you want you can always message me and i can show you so you have an idea of what sort of things we’ve thought about but at the end of the day it’s entirely down to you and your partner and preferences xx

We have also discussed exposing him to the world online and what our boundaries are. We have decided that ANYTHING that goes online from him has to go through us first. Announcement pictures people can post on their public accounts, and after the birth, until he is old enough to decide what he wants to be online from him, people can only post him on private accounts. But this is just as example :-)

I also dont want much people to hold him tbh :-). I've had a lot of people not even reach out to me about how Im doing, my rule is, if you weren't there for me during my pregnancy, you're not gonna get your baby fever time!!

Me and my partner also sorted boundaries between ourselves. - As we chose to breastfeed, I fed the baby, and he fed me (which means him meal prepping my meals and snacks when he went back to work also). - Anything said to each other during the night was forgiven and forgotten about in the morning (the nights are torturous). - Every day we make time for at least 1 loooooong hug/embrace. - "Us against the baby (world), not against each other" 😂 But also definitely discuss social media. My MIL posted online that we had given her a grandson (we didn't know the gender until birth) before I had even managed to post anything myself. I hadn't even made it on to the labour ward yet, I was still in the room with the pool I gave birth in 🙄 I went absolutely bonkers, my partner sent her a gentle reminder to "take it the fuck down" 🤣

Washing hands before holding baby.