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It’s really normal. I have an 9 week old and spoke to so many other mums about it and they said the same thing. That they hated their partner during this time. But it gets better (apparently) I’m still in the midst of it! Regarding the leaving baby part - it’s not fair for him to put pressure on you. Even if you did leave the baby you would just be worried/anxious the whole time. Maybe explain that to him and give him a timeframe of when you would be happy to leave baby. Why don’t you plan a date night with baby involved? Just dinner or something, they have baby friendly showings of films, that could be a good idea too?
Absolutely normal. I have heard the 1st year is a major exam for a marriage/relationship whether the bubba was planned or not. It's a huuuge change and adjustment. Not just to the new roles of mum and dad and responsibilities coming with them but the mental and physical load, less time to your hobbies and less time for each other. Our big struggle is that I feel like I completely lost my identity (at least for now) while husband's life seems pretty unchanged with his job, gym. It makes me very sad and anxious but I know it is temporary and honestly only thing I can advise is talk talk talk and try to find compromises and just know it gets easier ❤️
I'm in the same boat. I could reel off what I hate about my partner at the moment and rant about how little he is doing. But I know we're both massively adjusting into it this new life that we planned. I hope it will just take time. You are absolutely not on your own!! X
My husband were like this for a bit but now it's settled.. My LG is 10 weeks old and I took her to my work Xmas do for a few hours last night before my husband collected her and had 2 hours with my friends before I went home. I was nervous as I've never been away from her for that long before but knowing she was with her dad helped. I did have someone comment on it as they couldn't understand why I was comfortable with leaving her but my argument was she's with her dad, not someone she doesn't know well, and we don't have family nearby so I don't get much time to do something for myself. Could you ask your MIL to watch little one for an hour whilst you're in the house as a first step to see how you feel? I think have a chat with your husband about when you think you may feel ready to leave your little one x
Me and my husband are not getting on either, we can't seem to get on the same page. The only thing I can say is, we are going through a massive transquition and none of us can really turn to each other as we are both in the trenches. I think when you're sleep deprived it has a big effect on your mood and your personality alters and it brings out the worst in each other. I'll be honest I really dislike my husband right now but I've been told by other mums to persevere as you do find your way back to each other.