Does anyone else feel this way?

I’m a first time mum 4 weeks postpartum with a gorgeous little boy but I’m just really struggling with this newborn phase. The permanent exhaustion, crying, feeding and him just wanting to be held 24/7 is so draining. I have a really supportive partner and the evenings are better as he can help but in general I’m just not loving this newborn ‘magical’ phase that everyone talks about and I find myself drifting to thinking about life before and sometimes thinking have I done the right thing by having him?! I then have such lovely moments that I feel extreme guilt for not being happy all the time. It’s such a range of emotions and I feel like no-one really talks about the reality of having a newborn. Does anyone else feel this way?
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It’s normal , it’s hard with your first , juggling everything and healing pp , you got this. Once I hit a year pp I felt much more myself . Things do improve

I know it doesn’t seem like it but eventually baby won’t have to be held all the time xxx

This popped up on my feed! My baby is now nearly 14 months and I promise you it gets so much better! I didn’t enjoy the newborn phase at all it was thankless and exhausting. Once they start to smile and laugh and you get a little back from them it becomes so much more wholesome and now at 14 months he’s my little best friend. I miss him being tiny and squishy but I enjoy being his mum so much more now. Hang in there xx

Could have written this exact post myself, also 4 week pp with my son. I don't necessarily have any words of wisdom but please feel free to message me if you'd like someone to talk to xx

Some people love the naby phase , some don't. I have a toddler and the older she gets, the more I enjoy it.

Same here! My little girl is 4 weeks now, and things are not magical. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions and for sure mentally and physically draining. It’s ok, do be not ok and to struggles at times. 🙌 fell free to message me as well xx

The culture / life change shock can be quite hard as a first time mum. You're both constantly busy and tired with the baby but also do absolutely nothing all day. It's very confusing! I felt the same with my first. If it makes you feel better, it's been much easier with my 2nd. Also, some babies are just harder. My first was definitely more challenging than my 2nd is right now, which makes being a first time mum even harder. So don't feel bad for finding it hard - it IS hard! I think talking and being honest with those around you definitely helps. You'll find that you're definitely not alone x

Yes I feel this sometimes!

I love posts like these, because I think more people should be open and honest about not enjoying the newborn phase. We LOVE our babies, but it is bloody hard and we should be allowed to admit/communicate that without feeling guilty or like bad mums. I didn't enjoy the newborn phase with my first, and I'm finding it 1000x harder this time. Reading 'have I done the right thing in having him?' really spoke to me because that thought has crossed my mind too with this baby. 😔 But like others say, it does get easier! Once the smiles start, and they do more than just cry when awake it doesn't feel as relentless or thankless. My eldest is 2.5 yrs old and every day he does/says something that reminds me WHY I became a mum. He is my best friend and I'm sure the same will be said for my youngest in a few months. This season is hard, but it will pass. The time of year doesn't help either - I'm hoping once Christmas is out of the way, the overwhelm, stress and panic will ease!

We all feel like this sometimes. Some more some less. It is good that we open up about it as we learn that we are not alone in this rollercoaster of emotions. I would say the lack of sleep, no time for yourself and sometimes not knowing how to deal with a newborn as a ftm has impact on our mood. And definitely the time of the year is not helping with dark outside. Know that you are not alone and it will get easier soon. Hang in there ❤

This is exactly how I feel with my son, he’s not an easy baby and completely different to how my daughter was, I am also 4 weeks PP😫 I just feel like he’s never settled no matter what I do. Xx

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