(2/2) given what you’ve gone through, I think anything you can do to give yourself some more reassurance/ sleep a little more is worthwhile. Sending love and hugs!
I had the same worries and it caused my anxiety to be really bad to the point I went to a therapist. It definitely has gotten better over time.. I heard the machines weren’t worth it so I didn’t get one. I just watched my baby sleep for the first month of his life and woke him up every 3 hrs . he’s 4 months now and now if he’s not ready for bed but I am I put him in his bassinet and he watches me sleep until he falls asleep 😂
Bless you, I'm a therapist and work with this more often than you think. It's quite common. I want to say it will get better over time, but I think you have birth-related PTSD and I'd advise you to speak to a therapist. You'd be expedited with being Postnatal. I wouldn't advise getting a machine as that won't get rid of the anxiety instead it will become a safety behaviour and something used to seek reassurance. Hope that helps.
I really struggled with this too. And it literally is trauma. Message me if you’d like as I’m past this stage now. (It gets better xx)
@Sophie thank you. It’s horrible isn’t it :( I’ve spent most of today crying about it and I just dread nighttimes! I bought snuza hero earlier, so I’m hoping this helps settle my anxiety as it’s completely taken over and really getting me down ☹️☹️ thank you xx
@Tabitha how long till you started to feel better about it? It’s only day 3 so early days but I’ve literally cried all day today about it! Xx
@Fatima wouldn’t surprise me what so ever we didn’t have the nicest labour/ birth ☹️ thank you xx
Girl, right now you are in the thick of raging hormones and a totally new life. We actually are wired to be more awake to keep our babies alive and sometimes our minds really take over. If it doesn't settle for you then seeking some help is always good ❤️💙
@Danielle literally as soon as we was out of newborn phase at 3 months xx
Hi hun 👋🏼 please speak to either your midwife or your health visitor, as other ladies said you have experienced trauma during/post your labour and it won’t go away as easy I’m afraid. Not sure where abouts you live but they should offer you free counselling at you local birth centre to go through everything that happened and help you overcome your stress and anxiety ♥️
I also had an owlet sock and loved it!
I was extremely nervous as well, especially the first 4 months. I wish I had bought an owlet sock, I think it would have let me sleep better.
I had a little monitor that attached to my sons nappy which would monitor his breathing and beep if it slowed and then set an alarm off if it stopped for too long. It helped ease my anxiety a little but I would still check him periodically, I still do that now and he's 2 haha.
Hi Danielle I’m so sorry to hear what you went through with your baby that must of been so scary. I was the exact same as you. Myself and my partner took it in turns to watch our baby all night until he was around 6 months old because I was just so terrified of SIDS (it’s hard to even type the word!) we were exhausted! We eventually started co sleeping because it just felt the most natural to me, we still co sleep now at almost 2 and I wouldn’t have it any other way. For me I need to feel him next to me to be able to sleep. We did use the owlet sock too but since I have read some bad reviews so I would look into something else. Sending lots of love, I know it can feel like the scariest thing in the world and the thoughts are overwhelming. It does get easier ❤️ xxx
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@Jade it’s the worst feeling isn’t it, I’m literally sat now not wanting my dinner cause it’s coming to evening & I just feel so sick. My mom is literally my comfort blanket so the second she leaves I’m upset again :( it’s just so scary. I have him right next to my bed but I wake up and check on him every 15 minutes. I have got the snuza hero but I’m even getting anxiety about that giving off false alarms, can’t win! Xx
Hi Danielle, I’m so sorry to hear about your little boys tough start in the world! It is completely understandable you’ve been left traumatised. For different reasons than you (I’m a paediatric intensive care nurse so have seen lots of traumatising things) but I’m extremely anxious about SIDS too. I bought an owlet sock when I was pregnant, it’s an expensive item but often on sale. I can honestly say of all the baby items I own it’s my complete essential. It monitors babies heart rate and oxygen levels and alarms if anything is out of range. The alarm is loud enough to wake you from your sleep and prompt you to check your baby. You have to bear in mind it will alarm for high heart rate sometimes (if your baby is screaming this is expected). I have never had an alarm for low oxygen, however knowing I’d be alerted gives me so much peace of mind. There are other cheaper options of apnea monitors available but I can’t give a personal review (1/2)