Debating a C Section

Would it be too late to ask for a scheduled section at this point? I've not done my birth plan yet with my midwife. Up until this point I've been 100% convinced I wanted a vaginal birth. This is my second and I had a vaginal delivery with my first. Although he was a big baby (9lb9oz) I had no complications, minor stitches and was up and about the next day as if everything was normal. I think in my head I'd told myself if I could do it once I could do it again, but the last couple of weeks the risks of what could potentially go wrong with having another big baby (this little guy is estimated to be even bigger than his older brother was) are really starting to scare me. At first I thought "oh I'll give it a go vaginally and if need be they can take me in for an emergency c section" but I've read a few birth stories about having an emergency c section and they're mostly all terrifying, against the stories from people who have had planned sections and them saying they were a lot smoother. Overall I'm terrified of surgery's and being cut open and the thought of having someone poking their hands in my insides makes me want to throw up, but the thought of something potentially going wrong with baby is much scarier.

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I’m sure it isn’t too late. I guess though the fact is if you had an uncomplicated birth the first time you’re likely to be just fine the second time too! If anything probably quicker and easier it seems. I don’t know anything though as I’m a first time mum but just wanting to try to reassure you, I’m also very much feeling the birth nerves now but determined to try to stick to what I wanted when I wasn’t worried 😂

Truthfuly, emergency cesareans are horrible. My first was emergency. To put your body through the labour and then trauma of emerg cesarean is alot harder to recover from than an elective cesarean. Trust your gut instinct. If you want to give the natural birth ago, they say 2nd babies are easier as your body has done it before. But if your gut is telling you cesarean.. listen to it. Its never to late to opt for one. They should advise this anyway surely? Whatever you do good luck. You will get through it 🙏❤

@Beth with my first they urged me to get a c section because of the risk of shoulder distocia and him getting stuck, but after a second opinion I decided against it. I'm gonna have a discussion with my midwife about it next week and see what she says. Part of me still really wants natural because of how easy my recovery was but then it's like, what are the chances that's gonna happen twice😂

@Jema yeah, my sister had to have an emergency section with her second for the exact same reasons I'm debating one now. He was so big he quite literally look parts of my sister out with him and now she has so many health issues because of it. There's just such a huge part of me telling me to just pick the safer route and have a section, I never had this with my first😂 this time around I've struggled massively with PGP and can hear my pelvis and hips click when I walk so that's not helping😂 I think the fact I know I have to come home this time and take care of my one year old as well as a newborn is making me think do I really want to risk having a tough recovery? My mind is in a million and one places this time around

@Katie do you have any support at home. I had a planned cesarean with baby 2 and had a 1 year old too. The 1st 6 weeks is the hardest. As long as you have support you will be fine honestly. If its for the safety of yourself and youve seen it go wrong before i wouldnt risk it. Just opt for cesarean babe. Im the same as you though the pgp is soooooooo intense this time round. Baby is measuring larger than its gestation too. But im having a section this time aswel. Xx

@Jema my partners got 3 weeks paternity and his manager has told him he can use it back to back with his annual leave if he needs more time, plus my sisters have both said they'll come and help as well. I just know I'd never forgive myself if I made the wrong choice you know? My niece dislocated her shoulder during birth and now she's 14 and still has nerve damage from it. My family in general don't seem to have much luck in the birthing department😂😂 yeah parts of this little guy are measuring at full gestation and I'm only 34 weeks, he's already looking nearly 7lb's so I know I'm not gonna be in for an easy ride. I'm a worrier and a massive control freak so this huge uncertain thing is just throwing me completely😂 I'm definitely going to talk to midwife about it all but I think I've already made my mind up really, I just needed a bit of reassurance. Thank you❤️xx

@Katie I read somewhere that bigger babies can lead to easier deliveries in some cases as when you have gravity on your side it helps move everything along more than a small baby! So it’s not all bad news

I had a 9lb 7oz baby vaginally with no issues , I’m now being induced with this baby as they are growing the same , the recovery was amazing after my first so I would like to avoid a c-section - we’ve already delivered a big baby so our bodies can do it again ! X

You could see what they say but I think risks are more from a c section. I've had 3 natural births and 1 c section (not emergency, just they were concerned about baby's heart and gave me a choice) and i have to say c section recovery is horrible, way worse to me than labour pains and made it harder for me to care for baby I felt.

I can second the @Cat c section comments....I had an elective c section on Tuesday and I can safely say I would honestly prefer a vaginal birth recovery. It's been a tough one!

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