Any tips on how to kindly let your partners mum know not to visit you for the majority of your stay post c section at the hospital
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Your partner should tell her
Agreed with above, husbands job. He can say that he's happy to face time her but it's important to that you get as much rest as possible and hosting a person, any person is too much. You don't sleep on the wards so if there is a time where cuddles are all that needed it's important mum sleeps and he(as dad ) gets cuddles for bonding. Her time will be when you are all home and that you are ready to show off your little baby. For now it's private time for the 3 of you and if/when that changes you will let them know. Id say that he needs to really big up that he needs time for bonding and how he really needs it to be stress free and he needs that time as it's limited on the ward. And if she says she wants to help blah blah. Get him to say it would be helpful for her to do your washing or change the bedding or clean something in the house, what ever you are comfortable with. Sterilise everything maybe or ask if you can Amazon bits to her house instead. Whatever task takes something off your plate
Thank you for the responses everyone The days have been a blur and only got a good 2.5 hours of consistent sleep at the hospital so I have energy for respond. He actually did have a talk with her about certain things and some of her responses were … let’s just say thank goodness I’m off balance with everything else that’s going on because if I weren’t, I’d be a great villain in her life. Response such as “what she’s (I’m) going through is the role of a woman!” My partner hid these comments from me but she said them to my face lol Guys this relationship is about to get interesting 😅
Just to add the next day from this post she called to check in and said she weren’t going to come that day as she had a cough and worked late… My partner also told her not to come as there’s a lot going on at the moment and her presence is over whelming in which she responded with the above, but agreed she wouldn’t come. However, she came, pushing open my curtains while I’m trying to practice breast feeding (I find it more helpful for me to be topless) so her first view was me and my boobs hanging. Then there was a confusing confirmation that she did tell me she weren’t coming and agreed with my partner not to come but kept throwing hints on why she should go and just ended up coming anyway. Honestly now that I type this all down with a clearer head… this is going to be quite an entertaining life chapter. All of this is doable as my head space is heavily occupied but a it clears I think she’s in for a surprise 😅
I'd suggest having your hubby speak to her and maybe you can even ask the hospital to put a "no visitor" rule for your room. I'm just worried that if she is that dramatic, she might hold it against you if anything comes off the wrong way.