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@Grayson 6 months
I know it’s really hard to imagine leaving a little baby with a dad who doesn’t know all about caring for her. One thing you could do is teach and teach and teach him and plan your exit and then when you do go, he would be more equipped to be safe with shared custody… like a year from now? You know what’s best and you’re going to get through this. The hotline is so helpful. I left my partner when my baby was one and looking back, I wouldn’t have felt confident about his parenting skills before then.
@Grayson I’m always teaching him but he’s so lazy minded he even though I made a list of jobs that should get done daily can’t remember to look at it so I’m left with cleaning, cooking and looking after baby by myself and him asking me a million questions it’s so draining. I don’t want him to have no relationship with my daughter I grew up not knowing my own dad I wouldn’t put her through that but what do I do?
I hear you and you absolutely should leave if you need to. I’m just saying if you want to strategize for the baby’s safety: you will either get full custody or you’ll have to share. If you’re going to have to share, you can wait until it seems safer, or just GTFO if you can’t wait. You may want to leave sooner and explain to a judge why he’s unfit. You need legal advice. If he’s verbally abusive, that’s abusive. Women’s shelters in your area may help you find free legal advice. Call the domestic violence hotline to get started.
Call the domestic violence hotline. They will be very supportive and help you make decisions. How old is your baby?