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I want out, can't deal with this drunk

My partner on the job contract in another country, he been away for 6 months now and each month getting worst He drink always drink but it worst when he away and he is not happy drinking it depressing sink down kinda drunk, we barely talk only just text goodnight and sometimes he disappear for days Our baby is 1 years old and I keep asking him to at lease make a routine call for our baby which repeatedly fail And when I point out he turn to attack me said I give you money every month so you can enjoy being stahm And when I telling him about at lease keep in touch he keep bring up this and other bullshit it very hard he alone there he miss us ( but never make much of the call ) then said you go get some job When I ask can he at lease do the call for baby It go in circle like this Never sorry he been disappear Never sorry being drunk and talk bullshit and mean Keep say I love you, I do everything for you and so on but nooo this is not love for me, with what good morning text and good night text I started to hate him and now I disgusting with everything he say ( all those attacking and don't see he doing anything wrong ) I want out but I don't know how I didn't work since pregnant, I don't have family to help with my baby and don't have anything saving up we still on paycheck to paycheck and barely survive I send him our baby pics and video everyday And I just felt like he took me for granted on that I always update and report so everything is fine He don't have any other women I'm very sure of it Just only alcohol Mean drunk alcoholic Off work go straight to the bar never put up 5 or 10 mins calling us Too hang over the next day never made it to call his baby I suffocating, I don't think I want this man anymore but what do I do he still be my baby daddy and I still have no income :(

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It sounds like he can’t cope with being away from you guys and is turning to booze to drown his sorrows. Is it not possible for him to get a job where you live, or for you all to relocate? Being away when baby is that young has to be tough on him. Obviously his behaviour is unacceptable but I suspect there’s a reason for it. Sounds like a very tough time for you both, hope you’re able to find a way through!

@Kathryn it only job offer he get that can cover us and yes he dealing with his fight with his father but this thing been like forever he try before and it like a lost cost I don't know why he not move past that since it seem it never work Every time he drink It s all say he s alone His family fucked him over He not with us But we can make plan to talk to catch up but nooo all time he have after work go into booze And it start to effect his work too :(

We been talk that maybe me and our baby can join him but it took time for save up and in detail of when, how much we save or how we gonna arrange place to stay together never come up ( well we barely talk )

Is he coming back any time soon so you can discuss it in person? Thinking of your plan, where will you go if you leave him, and would you need to get a job? Maybe if you’re able to get a job where you are and you want to stay together he could come back but then he would need to kick the drinking if he were to look after baby

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