Would you be okay if your boyfriend wanted to invite his best friend over to spend the night at our place and you go to work at midnight so he would be there and you were gone? And your baby would be sleeping. I met him once but I don’t

I would not be okay with it. Bad things can happen under the cover of night, and I don't want to take any chances whatsoever

I would be fine because I love my husbands friends like brothers… if I didn’t feel comfortable with it, it would be a big no no x

I would trust my kids lives with my husbands two best friends. But I’ve know then for 20+ years. If you have only met them once, nope.

I would be ok because I trust my husband

@Susiei trust my boyfriend I don’t trust my boyfriend’s friend I only met him once.

It would depend on how well I knew the friend!

I would be okay with it. 1 of my fiancé's best friend is a father of 3 and he's an amazing dad to his kids. The other one, is very respectful that my fiancé is a dad first before their friendship.

Does your partner know and trust his friend? My friend has stayed with us a couple of times in our house and my partner has only met her briefly (once years ago) but I trust her so he trusts her

Trust your instincts if you don’t feel comfortable go with that

If it’s his best friend surely they’ve known each other longer than what you’ve been pregnant💁🏼‍♀️ I wouldn’t class a best friend as someone they’ve known any shorter than that!

I would have to know him really well before I'd feel comfortable with this. And I'd talk with my husband first. Have the baby sleep in the same room with him.

Why have you only met this person once !

As long as it’s not female and you trust ur guy.

I mean.... Do you hang out with people that your boyfriend hasn't met more than once? I personally chose to marry someone who I trust, which means I trust him to protect our son around people that I might not know very well and also to not bring people around that would harm our child. It feels like you might not trust your boyfriend as much as you might think... My husband is just as capable as I am to care for and protect our child in every situation.

No if anyone spends a night at my home I’m definitely present and my babies / toddlers sleep in the room with me presently no one sleeps in rooms with my kids in their beds etc other than me and their dad and definitely no one in my home who I don’t know overnight while I’m gone that’s certainly not happening

Wait so the friend who you met once would be there alone with you? Or there alone with your child ? Or there alone with ur husband and child? If your husband isn’t there I wouldn’t want him there. You don’t know him.

I was gonna say it would be okay until I read the baby part normally it would be fine because that’s his best friend but with a baby around you have to be really careful, make sure you both feel comfortable, never having that baby alone, as much as I hate to say it but not everyone can be trusted, it’s usually the people you least expect that’ll harm your baby, it’s way even at home I don’t ever leave my baby with anyone other than my mother and even then I’m checking up on them like every couple minutes

If I had only met him once I wouldn’t feel comfortable with his however if I knew him well I would be fine with it

You said you don’t feel comfortable and the fact that you made this post proves your intuition is telling you something. I wouldn’t risk it knowing what many other children and myself have been through. I’m very protective of my daughter and will always listen to my gut. You met the guy once and your boyfriend may put his guard down thinking he could trust his friend. Maybe the friend is a great guy but I’d hate to find out under bad circumstances. I’d be calling out of work or telling my partner it’s a strong no.

If you're not comfortable then no, I've only met my partners best friend a few times but that's because of the distance, we often talk to him via video chat and the last time he came over was the first time he met my children but I'd fully trust him with them

I would recommend looking up the statistics for childhood sexual abuse and make an informed decision. I looked them up myself when researching vaccines for sexually transmitted diseases in children under two. It was… eye opening.