Advice please🫠 this is in regards to cheating allegations so if your familiar with how cheaters are I'd love to hear what you have to say if you comment😭

I was talking to my bd other Bm we been talking on and off for months.. she expressed how my bd cheated on her several times when they was together ( I didn't know he was a cheater ) this was about 7 years ago.. ok i also found out from her that he was dealing with some girl when i was pregnant there kids tell her things all the time i guess so with this girl my bd supposedly was seeing she said her kids seen her all the time and how they would swap weekends staying over my bd house and hers the opposite weekend.. awhile back when this girl name was first mentioned i confronted my bd about it and he said he does know her but they don't deal with eachother or was never together or had any sexual relations.. listen to this part my bd had a place of his own for almost a year and DID NOT TELL ME😂 i thought he was still living with his mom of course if it wasn't for his bm I wouldn't of even known alot of things apparently his excuse was , " when im mad about something i like to pop up " that instantly made me think back to like , ok do you have something to hide or something? ive caught about 4 STD's from him over the years and he'll lie like he doesn't know where it came from the fact he had his own place for so long and didn't tell me is very weird.. my biggest question is do you think his Bm would lie on him about him supposedly cheating on me? she tells me everything she pretty much " know " and he'll tell me the complete opposite , it's almost like who is lying here atp . AND NO WERE NOT together anymore haven't been in like 2 years we still was sleeping together on and off tho.. that's all he wanted from me im deading that😬🥱

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If he's given you STDs four times, never let him near you again. You deserve so much better.

WAIT. You’ve caught 4 STDs from him? Sis, he is just lying and playing in your face. Staying just shows him that no matter what you won’t go anywhere and he can continue to disrespect you. He is for the streets Oops finished reading. If yall aren’t together don’t worry about it you know he’s a liar so just leave it alone.

Personally I don’t know why you would care. He’s given you 4 STDs and made you a BM. He’s showing you over and over how much he don’t care about you or your kids or disrespecting you. Who cares about the details of the who what when where. Leave him. Stop giving him attention or any energy and focus on making your life better for you and your kids. Go back to school and get another degree, take up a hobby, date someone else new, enroll your child in ballet or football. Hell anything

A secret place and multiple stds definitely means he was cheating but at this point you need to just move on and not give him the time of day and only communicate about the kids

Agree with all the above

I didn’t even read the whole thing, my realest advice to you, is come back and re-read this imagining your own daughter wrote it, you will likely find your own answers 🫶🏼

She gains nothing from lying and the stds was red flags enough

@Wendi absolutely agree with you 💯

That sounded lol like my sons dad. I’m glad I dodge the bullet. He had 7 more kids after mine. I wish I would have believed his first BM and the other girls he was messing with I would have never dealt with him. I’m happily married and moved on. I just pray for him. It’s a sad case.

@Daija agree. I mean he didn’t even tell you he had a place. STDs. I’d recommend not sleeping with him on and off anymore because you don’t wanna catch anything again.

Yes he was definitely cheating on you. It is incredibly obvious.

Girl that man is not your problem anymore stds and info from an old baby mama ain’t the news you wanna really dive into … leave that problem to god

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