Sex after birth

I am one of those who have no drive… but I’m super curious of those who claim to have sex before 6 weeks because you just “can’t wait”. Did you not tear during labor? Are you not bleeding or having lochia… which smells like a dumpster truck? Also… I’ve seen people say they do anal.. like people saying “we have more than one hole” when saying they have sex before 6w. I cannot imagine needing sex that bad that you will go that far. Like how are you not getting shit every where???? Like please be fr lol. These things just do not make sense to me! Y’all have to be lying bc how. Sincerely a very curious girl who just hit 6w Also this is my 3rd baby so I am not new to this whole PP thing, I just lost my drive to pregnancy and it doesn’t return PP. I have had all babies back to back to back so my hormones have never leveled back out. Me and hubby are good and happy, I navigate this very well bc I’m used to it, I’m just curious. I wish I had the drive to want him the way he wants me but oh well I’ll get there eventually and hopefully not get pregnant again lol.

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I waited 6 weeks. It's not necessarily the vagina that needs healing it's your insides. And anal doesn't have to be messy lol. I've never had "an accident" and I do it quite frequently 😂

I did it at 4-5 weeks pp and it didn’t hurt. I had a second degree tear, my stitches had already healed and my body just felt good enough and healed to do it again

I didn’t tear and waited 8 weeks because it felt too painful at the 6wk mark. I didn’t necessarily have a drive either thanks to sleep deprivation and ppd. 🙃

I had a 3rd degree tear and I didn’t end up having it until I was over 3 months pp one because I was scared and 2 because I just didn’t want to 😂

I had a c section… so tearing doesn’t count for me. I just still waited 6 weeks

I didn’t have sex until I was like 6 month pp 😬 and I still don’t really have a sex drive and he’s 2 lol

After my 2nd we had sex after 4weeks, I had no tears and bleeding had stopped. With other 3 I waited 6 and 8 weeks as I was bleeding for longer 🙂

I had foreceps, 30 stitches, and I had sex at 4/5 weeks, it wasn’t something that I needed to have but one thing just led to another, it didn’t hurt

I have had sex around 6w with my second after having a 3rd degree tear. It stung. I also experienced tightness… like the inability to relax everything and enjoy sex. Sex always seemed to hurt internally since I get pregnant w my second. This time around I’m not rushing it at all I just don’t want to force it and I don’t want to open my tear back up. I still feel it sting a bit when I sit down sometimes and I don’t want to have sex anyways. I feel like I could go forever without it.

A lot of you said you stopped bleeding sooner… but like so did I. I stopped having blood at about 2 weeks ish but the lochia has not stopped. The light yellow and sometimes different colors discharge that smells disgusting and weird that goes on forever. There’s no way you guys did not have that going on. Did you take a shower or something???? Or just ignore it? Like I haven’t even gotten my first period yet. It’s the same with all 3 of mine and online I see it’s supposed to last this long for most people it’s kind of standard PP stuff. My husband is obviously dying for sex. N I say no bc one I’m not ready, 2 I know it’ll hurt and 3 the lochia just stinks really bad and I know it won’t be pleasant for anyone. The only way that we’d be able to get pay that is the shower and I don’t want to anyways so no sex for anyone.

I waited 3 months after birth, Am not that desperate.

Same I’m confused as to all the people who “can’t wait”. Where do they get the energy.

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