Have you ever got serious with someone casual that got you pregnant?
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@Sarah that’s the first thing I asked very convenient that you’re here to be a father after the whole girlfriend thing died off but he said they both wanted 2 different things and she wasn’t outgoing enough for him she didn’t like to socialise much essentially yes girl ofcourse I’m having doubts I just feel like it would be silly of me to jump into a mindset of this is a perfect win win situation to get into he’s already made up his mind and so sure what he wants so it’s making me out like I’m leading him on
Hun don't date him give him till baby is 1 year old to prove that u can trust him tho from reading this I'd say u already have a couple red flags write down a list of pros and cons and look for any and all red flags dig on stuff make sure u are 100% sure you trust him before going back to him iv always had a rule of once a cheat always a cheat but I have heard of people changing how old is he if u don't mind me asking and be careful that all this him paying for stuff and being around with baby isn't an act to get u back people can be sly and put on an act for as long as they need to get u trapped just be careful and write a list of red flags no matter how big or small and always keep looking out for them even after the list is written more could always pop up later down the line x
@Tilly he’s 30 I’m 22 and yes I did try to talk him out of it that he’s just in a baby mindset that’s why he’s now thinking we are compatible as I said in my reply he’s so sure this is what he wants
He cheated on his supposed girlfriend and fathered a child with another person. Also persuaded you to abort & at first abandoned you during your pregnancy and first 2 months of your child’s life. Well, wouldn’t say he would be a great choice. Doesn’t seem like you even want to be with him romantically
@Chí I’ve given myself time to get to know him just to see if we are really compatible but my first initial thought was we’re not so I guess to an extent I’m settling because I didn’t want to have children with anyone else but I don’t know if I can overlook certain things
He’s much older than you, so please don’t move him into your home! If he’s serious about being a father he can move closer to where you are, get a home and job, set up his life in a way that prioritises his child without jumping into a relationship with you. Some men feel they ‘own’ you once they get you pregnant, even if they don’t want/like you. He had a girlfriend (probably closer to his age) and you were a younger conquest who he didn’t intend to conceive with, he likely is thinking of himself more than you so please be careful.
It blew up in my face. Here we are 14 years later and I learned he never stopped cheating. 2 kids later
We was casual when he got me pregnant but he didn’t have a girlfriend & he stepped up to the plate from the get go , we’ve been together 4 years now and have 2 little ones. If he’s cheated before I wouldn’t even risk it , you have to weigh up if it’s worth the risk , coz it’s a big one and when there’s kids involved I just don’t think it is
Personally if it’s going well Co-parenting apart, I would keep it that way and not take the risk.
idk girl I've always gone by the saying that if he'll cheat with you then he'll cheat on you. especially with a three hour distance between you. why did he and his girlfriend break up? no matter what, if you're having doubts before it's even begun, then you should at least give it some more time. let him show you that you can trust him not to be messing around or that he's not just going to dip out again if things get tough.