Inappropriate partner?

Yes I’d also feel uncomfortable him doing that. Have you sat down and told him how it’s made you feel? If you aren’t aloud to speak to other men then it’s only fair that he has the same boundaries!

Extremely inappropriate. For me that is already cheating

@Sarah this is an on going problem. This isn’t the first time he’s done something like this and I asked why he has such strict boundaries for me but he doesn’t uphold them himself and he said he didn’t see it that way or as him being in the wrong. I’m so confused as to how he can’t see it

Red flag. What was his response to why he asked for her number? Not that it will justify asking for it but I would want to see how he validated his response?

He said it’s easier to talk to her that way. I asked if he had the discord app and he said yes, so I asked how it was easier. He said when we started talking I asked for your number. I said the difference is we were planning to date. I really don’t know what to do in this situation. I’m having a baby with him and the amount of problems we’ve had with other females over the last six months has been overwhelming

Yes. I’d be uncomfortable for sure. My husband and I both have discords but he uses it more often to find servers for whatever game he’s playing and to find a buddy to play whatever game he’s playing. I use it when I play with my siblings as they’re on PC. We don’t talk to anyone of the opposite gender. There’s honestly no difference than asking for her number and talking on discord. It works just about the same. He’s giving red flags just like others say and him not seeing the issues here 🤦🏻‍♀️

I don’t think there’s a blanket answer as we all have different relationships and what some people think is ok, isnt and vice versa. My issue with this is that he’s set a boundary for you and not held himself to the same standard. If it isn’t something you like, put your foot down and hold him to the same standard.

@s a r a 🥀 thank you. I also don’t see the need to have her number. If he is capable of chatting to her through discord. I feel this was an excuse on his part to try and explain why he wanted her number. Although not a good one 😪

@Ana Moore thank you, this validates how I was feeling!

That’s the issue with gamers, they use it as a dating app too. I used to game a lot during the pandemic and a lot of the online people are in your area. You can also text real people while playing the game. He needs to delete the discord since he clearly has no self-control knowing he has a whole baby on the way smh sorry you have to deal with that esp this far along.

Trust your gut feeling. I would definitely feel a way about that when they can just chat online. Why does it need to go beyond that? And the fact that he wouldn’t be okay with you doing it says a lot about how he conducts relationships outside of your presence. Unless you gave him a valid reason to not want you to talk to guys on friendship apps, why would he have a problem with that if he talks to females🤔

erm..Why does he need a way to talk to her easier exactly?? 🤔 if it’s just about gaming keep it on discord, although if you’ve had problems I wouldn’t trust him talking to females on anything at all to be honest!

@LeKenya I think he might be insecure so he tries to control my situations. But then I think he feels he needs validation from other women but I’m not 100% sure. I’ve never been in a situation like this with other men before it’s very confusing and hard to navigate

@Jennifer I hand myself and he has made it clear he does not want me replying to messages on Xbox so I never have. He didn’t tell me he had discord. I had a really bad feeling something was off, and I know it’s wrong but I went through his smart watch and found all the discord messages from females. I wouldn’t have known otherwise.

Personally in my experience… the men that have issues with you having male friends is because they are insecure and know that if it were them they would be cheating cuz they are projecting themselves onto the situation. And you add that to him asking for a phone number. I would not be surprised in the least that he’s cheating. I’m sorry incognito… but this one is a huge red flag… trust you gut

So you can’t go on his Xbox and he isn’t using discord to speak to friends…he’s using it without your knowledge to chat to women… hellllll no. And it’s not wrong to look if you’re right! Don’t let him make you think otherwise either!