Moving away from shifts with partner

Is anyone still doing shifts with their partner or has anyone moved away from it?! Any tips/thoughts/experiences? My husband still has our 9 week old baby downstairs from around 9-12 every night so I can sleep. He has a bottle during that chunk but is otherwise breastfed. Baby’s sleep isn’t great so this is the only solid chunk I get some nights. I want to try and get baby into more of an evening routine with a bedtime but I’m scared that if I try and he doesn’t sleep, I won’t even get my 3 hour chunk. We have a toddler so napping during the day isn’t an option. I feel like maybe we’re holding our baby back from developing a night and day routine. Help!

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Yes my husband is doing last feed still 😩 I am combi feeding mainly formula. My first slept through the night at this point! 😴 We have no routine, it’s so difficult when you have two! We’re just seeing how it goes and praying for longer stretches

We used to do split shifts but stopped at 4 weeks as he went back to work and let me tell you it's been rough for me, doing all the night feeds sometimes I'm lucky if I get a two hour stretch of sleep between them as she can be difficult to put back down after a feed or just isn't great at sleeping. So if you can I'd 100% carry on with the shifts😂

We are still doing shifts too as I'm bottle feeding with breast milk and need sleep to produce and also to stay sane. I am also considering changing to taking baby to bed at say 10 and building a routine but am worried I won't get sleep :( it's tough! I'm going to put it off another couple of weeks to see what happens naturally 😌

Baby is 8 weeks :)

We've moved it to try and prioritise the sleep routine. We did the exact thing as I was getting exhausted. What we do now is: Anywhere between 5-6pm feed. Wake window for 30 -60 mins Nap. 8pm change and swaddle. Take her upstairs in a darkened room. Give a decent feed. Put down for nap (2-3 hours) I then sleep at this time. Feed at 11/12 put back down Feed at 3/4 put back down Feed at 6/7, take downstairs to get used to light rooms. Change and feed at 8/9

Never done shifts, EBF so baby is basically always mine 😂 Also have an almost 2yr old (next month) at home. When my husbands home (he can work away frequently) then he'll see to toddler if she wakes but she usually sleeps through x

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