Dummy cold turkey??

Looking for some advice that this gets better. My 2yr8month old has been using a dummy only for sleep at night since he was around 1½. He doesn't use it during the day. Lately he has been having absolutely unacceptable tantrums... I have been managing that to a point because I expected it at this age. However he's smart he clearly knows what he is doing because he has started to tell me mid tantrum he is tired and needs a dummy. I see him actively tiring himself out in the rage of the tantrum and I don't give in and give him the dummy .... Usually he eventually settles with distraction. I decided to go cold turkey tonight and explain he wasn't having a dummy he was too big now. We spoke about the dummy fairy a few months ago... But the rage and anger I have experienced this evening has me thinking he has never learned to manage his anger because of this stupid dummy. He is actively slapping me ... Trying to bite... Gets zero comfort from me cuddling him. I don't want to give in and offer a dummy because tonight has been traumatic and I don't want to confuse things... But this surely can't be a normal reaction to taking away the dummy? He can fall asleep without one at times but very rare... Usually in the car etc. I need to take the dummy away due to his behaviour but honestly this is so rough.