He called them boring

Ah that's sucks... such a shitty thing to say 😕

@Cindy next time he try it on I’m gonna say I’m boring remember or just say the same thing to him when he next shows interest

I donno how to respond as I understand not being In the mood anymore .. but you just flashing and not having sex as much as before is a tease "hense him saying why do that" and probably a let down for him.. unless you showed them intending to make him want you then that's probably his out the blue moan response (which is hurtful- I agree) maybe to get back at you for the tease. Sounds like he wants sex and your not.. :/

Do it back to him about his peepee (jks btw)

What an incredibly childish and passive aggressive thing to say! I think people forget that intimacy is a big spectrum, playfully flashing your partner doesn't have to immediately link to sex. In fact regular things like that in a relationship is good and healthy, it doesn't have to be and shouldn't be "all or nothing". I think you need to have a serious talk with him and explain exactly how you feel.

You do need to let him know how that comment made you feel though

@Lauren it doesn't have to be a link to sex . But not having sex when you know he wants it .. but flashing what you know he wants to touch but your not letting him is a dick move. !.. You right in it being healthy to be able to do things like this. But there is a difference.

It's not that deep

@Sara you're making it sound like she's intentionally holding sex back to be a twat. She's on medication that's literally killing her libido, what do you want from her?😂 I don't want to put words in Incog's mouth but maybe her flashing him was her attempt to flirt, be playful, initiate the start of some intimacy.

Which he spoilt by saying what he said I wouldn't want to do anything either if I flashed my partner and he made that comment And its been a week Fair enough if it had been longer

@Zoe your not him or her so howdy you know What he thinks.

@Lauren I literally wrote that in my one comment.. And it's not how I'm making it out to sound .. I know what's it's like not to want sex... .. you've personally taken it that way...

Lol neither are you, neither is Lauren We are all just making assumptions Don't come at me lol

@Zoe difference..... you said. "It's not that deep". Which is a statement. I said "maybe" to get back at and "sounds like".... Its a guess. Different.

I said its not that deep to what you're saying Sara about incog flashing him and teasing him and not giving him what he wants Your comments are a little unnecessary when you don't know these people either

ew- childish thing to say. You’re trying to be playful, it’s been a WEEK and he’s saying you “never” want it? Good grief. How about you get some time to adjust to the BC your on?

We have sex about once a week now due to me being on the pill which has killed my sex drive massively Even once a week is a struggle to be honest it’s a lot of hard work on my part to get in the mood but I manage once a week which to be fair is fine amount I feel it’s not all about sex right ?

2bh he would have it everyday if I allowed it which I think is abit much One a week seems more realistic we have 3 kids in the house as well which makes it harder

You definitely shouldn't have to justify yourself. You can't always help your libido (whether it's high or low) and your partner should be understanding, obviously that works both ways. If either of you are unhappy that's when you bring it up, talk it through and work together to find a solution or compromise. That's just how healthy relationships work. He shouldn't be making hurtful, passive aggressive comments like that. You're right though, it's not all about sex and if it is to him then maybe he's in the wrong relationship!

Next time you see his p tell him it's boring 🤷‍♀️

@YazmynJade oh I’m gonna but I know I’ll get the silent treatment in return 🙄

No disrespect at all meant here, but why are you with this person? He sounds very selfish and immature 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Lauren I ask myself that almost on a daily I think I’m gonna end things after Xmas

What he said, rude yes. But if he’s wanting to have sex and you haven’t been in the mood then I wouldn’t be flashing your boobs at him. Probably feels like he’s being teased.. which is just as rude. I also have no drive and 3 kids in the house, sometimes 4 due to my SD. I don’t flash my boobs at him and often cover up bc I know he always wants me and never gets to have sex so I’m not going to try and turn him on let alone intentionally flash my boobs at him that he is dying to put his face in.

@Amanda Brown 🙌💯

His flashed himself at me knowing full well I can’t have sex I don’t be rude and call him boring No excuse for rude ness

But you’re teasing him… men are visual if it wasn’t your plan to be intimate then why flash then get upset by his response… I see your on bc but why not find alternatives than dealing with those side affects plus a number of others… idk that’s my opinion what do I know 🫥🫣

@Jade what alternative? All BC has the same effect for me and I’ve already said we do have sex once a week atm it’s not even been a week since we last did it and like I’ve also said his flashed himself at me when I’ve been on my period b4 knowing full well I can’t have sex / wouldn’t I don’t be mean and call him boring for it I just smile and say just you wait and why does it have to lead to sex anyway.

So are you looking for advice/solutions or not. None of that stuff matters… that he has flashed you and you weren’t rude, etc. That’s just a bunch of he said she said past occurrences. He is allowed to be horny and you’re allowed to not want to have sex bc you have no drive. We are telling you based on your story that you’re teasing him. Doesn’t matter if it wasn’t your intention or not. If you don’t want that kind of reaction out of him then don’t flash him knowing he wants to have sex and you don’t. I’ve never thought about flashing myself for fun so I really can’t help you there. If you don’t want him flashing you when you’re horny then tell him you don’t like that, if you don’t mind it, then give him head or have sex when he does it bc that’s probably his way of initiating. On your period? Give him head if you’re up for it. My husband does it all the time guys are weird. And if you’re showing your parts… but not initiating… it’s going to be insulting to him.

There is something called emmenagogues… herbs that start your period that are natural birth controls… without the side effects… and yes they work and how I was able to keep from getting pregnant before my first and second child… and your only doing it once a week because of the bc? I’m just trying to get an understanding… it does sound like he lacks discipline in some aspects. But like I was saying men are visual it’s gonna lead to something unless you make that clear… if I was dating a woman and she flashed me honestly I’d think she’s tryna get it in… and are the different ways to please each other? Or are you not wanting to when your cycle starts…. There’s a lot of things that play apart in this … and he could have said you were being a tease … I just asked my husband about this and said he sounds immature for saying boring and could have easily said you were being a tease to so he does want to be intimate

Like I said it’s just my opinion

Whenever me and my partner has gone through periods with less sex and I've done something like that he has still made me feel loved/beautiful. Flashing playfully isn't teasing, especially if your libido has been low. If he wants to create an atmosphere where you feel comfortable to get in the mood again he shouldn't make you feel bad for going with the playful feeling- whether it leads to sex or not.

My pettiness would reply saying the reason for that is because he’s boring bed. But don’t be like me 😂

The over sexualizing of your boobs in the comments is silly. You can be playful and flash your tits and it can be totally out of the realm of sex. Folks who don’t understand that are weird. If your partner can’t love your body when it’s not “serving” him you need a new partner . You’re not a tease for being silly or even flirty with your guy and flashing him the Tatas ! I’d be butthurt if anyone called my boobs boring , he sounds immature.

@Destiny exactly my thinking lol

If I’m being honest the only time he shows me any sort of affection is when he wants sex I don’t get any random cuddles kisses non sexual touch unless his wanting sex that’s another reason why I’m not wanting sex so much as well as being on BC Suppose j flashed him knowing it would get his attention But didn’t expect him to be rude