Community Posts, Tips & Support on Postpartum Care

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Do I tell them about baby no 3

Me and partner have been together 3 years. I have a 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship who he is just the best stepdad to. We've recently had a baby boy together in Jan this year. Everything was fine I'd say until our boy was born. Backstory is in 2016 I lost a daughter and 32 weeks due to preeclamps...

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Emotional/Crying

Has pregnancy made anyone else more emotional? I feel like I cry all the time. I don’t even know why I am crying half the time. I came home from a lovely day spent with my mum wedding dress shopping, then I did a Tesco shop and as soon as I walked through my front door my partner told me our builders finished toda...

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Mom guilt… should you really feel guilty?

Just read on another thread (not going to share it or call this person out) this mom said mom guilt is a a sign that you need to change and there’s something wrong with your actions and that your body is signaling you to do better.

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Bipolar disorder

If you or your partner have bipolar disorder, do you feel triggered when the baby cries? Yesterday, I noticed my husband being a bit aggressive with our 15-day-old baby. He was changing her diaper, and she was crying a lot because she has colic. When he was done, he picked her up in a way that was so aggressive it s...

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Medication

Has anyone ever been put on Depakote for Bipolar Disorder or any other mood stabilizers? What were your experiences I know everyone is different but just curious since I’ll be starting once I’m done breastfeeding. Thank you!

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Tips to prevent tearing

Hello Mamas, Please share tips if you had minimal or first degree tear. What did you do differently or what helped ? I am so scared of tearing. Everybody I know had third or fourth degree tear. I have heard of warm compress and massage. Does it really help? Any other tips?

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Those of you who are neurodivergent, how has becoming a parent affected you? What have you learned?

I feel like I have to relearn so many things, social rules etc. Also having stayed at home with my baby for months has kind of given me a break from people and now that I'm easing my way back, I'm realising why I prefer being a hermit ( though it's not good for my mental health). Things I've noticed/learned since ...

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Contraception

So ive recently had my 6-weeks check with my daughter and the doctor put me back on my contraceptive pill. I have history of clinical depression and severe anxiety, when i came off my pill to start trying for my daughter in early july last year i felt like my mental health was doing better. I was less anxious about ...

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Feel awful

Really struggling at the moment and I don’t know what to do. Having a baby is everything I’ve ever dreamed of and having loads of nieces and nephews I felt so prepared but I don’t know if my baby is just difficult but I’m really not enjoying being a mum. Don’t get me wrong, I love my baby to bits but she’s just mi...

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Pregnancy hormones😭🤰🏻

I’m currently 16 weeks 3 days pregnant and this week I’ve been so emotional and sensitive. I keep bursting into tears at the littlest things. I think the hormones are starting to take over. Anyone else going through the same thing?🤷🏻‍♀️🫶🏻✨

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Postpartum

Hi ladies I just had a baby almost 4 months ago and I just feel like my sex drive is so high to the point that it’s distracting me .. my partner has a low libido & im sexually frustrated.. what do y’all recommend? Don’t say “get a vibrator” because I already have one. But it just doesn’t do it for me … I like physic...

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Does anyone else feel this way?

I’m a first time mum 4 weeks postpartum with a gorgeous little boy but I’m just really struggling with this newborn phase. The permanent exhaustion, crying, feeding and him just wanting to be held 24/7 is so draining. I have a really supportive partner and the evenings are better as he can help but in general I’m ju...

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Moody baby

Anyone else’s baby just seem to have a very grumpy / fussy personality? :( really upsetting as was previously til about 4 months a lovely happy bub and now just seems to be miserable.. initially put down to teething and leaps however I’m not sure that from the age of 5-7 months consistently can blame those anymore… ...

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Let’s talk about sex…

Ladies how is it going for you? I’m 5 months pp and can count on one hand how many times my husband and I have had sex since the baby was born in July. I just don’t have the urge or libido for it. It’s our 3rd baby and right now I’m a stay at home mum. I couldn’t complain about my husband, he supports me with the ki...

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Those who had separate parents where one lived at least an hour or more away, how did that impact your mental health?

I’m considering leaving my partner for multiple reasons. I would have to move back to my parents for a while with my baby to work things out, they live about 1 hour and a half away. If this happened when you were a child how did you cope with not seeing the other parent all the time and how did that affect you menta...

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Post natal depression

Putting it out there incase anyone else feels the same. I think Iv got a touch of PND feeling low and majorly over whelmed most of the time , (2nd time mum) with now a 12 Weeks old and 2 year old. I absolutely love my little ones but the low feeling, everything just felt like a mountain in front of me. Not enjoying ...

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waiting for sex after birth

i just don’t understand the amount of posts and comments about “not being able to wait”. like i was horny at 2 weeks, seeing my man become a dad was the sexiest thing ever but we waited ! and i’m glad we did. i know it’s not my life or place to judge but i can’t help but judge y’all doing it after 2 weeks (or less)....

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Not connecting with baby

I have an almost 3 month old son and I feel like he does not like me as much as other people :(. When my husband or other visitors talk to him, he lights up, smiles and coos. I do the same and he does not light up and get excited as much with me 😔. I am home with him all day and I feel like he is more fussy with me…

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5 weeks pp section scar

Hi ladies, I am 5 weeks postpartum after having an emergency C-section. I am still having to take paracetamol occasionally due to discomfort and I do have a slight overhang which is slightly numb/hard. Is this normal for this stage?

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I’m devastated..

Hi friends.. I’ll start by saying this year has been my worst year in life by far. Many things happened but the news I just got topped it off. I had an OBGYN annual exam yesterday. I’ve never had any issues other than a uti here and there. Today I got a call with results bc I told my doctor ow anted to be checked fo...

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